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A good   happy marriage    calls for companionship of the mind and the matter . But many a times the companionship of the mind plays larger role as compared to the companionship    of the matter.  It is always the mind and the soul that will keep your marriage  young  thriving and throbbing no matter how long and how  far have you been staying away from your companion. In  this  age of career building  by both the male and the female partners to the merriment   ,distance marriages many times become compulsion rather than a choice.When a partner lives apart  or moves away temporarily   it is the mind that will keep on reminding   you of the  physical matter of the companionship and keep the memories of the time spent together alive and make you pine for the next opportunity that will bring you closer to the partner again.

We have often heard couples talking about the waning of the inteterst in marriage and of the fact that the caring of each  in the marriage  no longer seems to be   of so much  importance any more. Many couples suffer in silence wondering if the other partner has been seeing someone else or if they no longer attract each other.  If such be the case with you too then it is time you learn some of the secrets to keep your marriage thriving and throbbing …..
1. The secret of  the communication of the mind and the matter :The  mind will respond only when the matter  is felt ,touched and is absorbed by the mind as a pleasant and lasting memory. It is   important each times the couples meet that they should make it a special occasion to    touch and talk .The physical touch charges the sensual cords leading to the charging of the emotional cords by the lovey dovey talks .The couple must talk and interact with each other on matters that  are non controversial  for them both and  the  loving gesture of physically touching each other will add to  the necessary romantic touch of their desire for each other .  Some couples are  resistant to the communication of the mind and the matter when they do not want to  exhibit their fondness for each other. They believe that the  touch will eventually lead to the bigger acts of   love making etc and that once they touch they will lose focus on the   actual points of discussion.  Nothing is far from the truth .  The touch will actually bring about the focus on what the other person is saying and will be a way of showing and showering affections for each other  .

The couples  must make it a    habit to talk and touch whenever they hold discussions in their privacy .  Partners  that speak of  distraction in their marriage  usually  say that they have nothing   common to talk about . That they find their  other  partner too does not speak much about to them. Such aloofness and the act of not opening to each other   creates uncalled for fears, leading to anxiety and sense of loneliness in marriage. The couples can have many   things to talk about.

  • You can talk to each other  about each other’s  aspirations.
  • You can talk to each other   about the best things that you like about your partner .
  • You can talk to each other about your  fears.
  • You can    share a  joke  that the neighbors, the office mates or children  have   shared with you
  •  You can talk about the interesting piece of writing you just read on the internet.
  •  You can  speak about the interesting recipe that you have learnt and are going to    try it out on the next weekend .

The partners must share such things in the morning  while sharing bed tea or on the breakfast table   before they leave for their works. They can speak to each other in the middle of the day over the phone or over the web chat to keep the memories of the morning touch and talk alive, and throbbing.
That will show the partners that each one cares for the other and yearn for him or her.

while some people  feel that they need to open more and talk   whereas some partner could be of the opinion and  the habit of not talking much . this can make the other partner   feel he or she   is not  getting  enough attention from the  other. That is the reason  that couples   need to   not only talk more but also  need to touch more.

You must reach out and touch your partner in  many different ways   to feel the romanticism of a young married life   .

  •   Begin  the day  with a  warm kiss or a gentle rub.
  •  Stroke the partner’s  cheek or play with the  hair .
  •   A momentary touch can bring about the  positive energy in the relationship and the feeling of gentle touch lingers on through the day .
  •   When couples touch each others  shoulders, or stroke their cheek, the magical  moment   will get them   connected to each other . The relationship will sparkle and bring about a feeling of love and affection overpowering any negativity  that the couple might  have had  .


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