Sudhir (name changed ) has been managing his large company for years together and didn’t believe it could happen to him when he was told by this psychologist ,” you have been suffering from high functioning depression”. “ But how is this possible ,I have been managing all my affairs well and attending to all my routine .However the family could notice him being bored quite quickly and Sudhir has of late been getting tired often ,showing signs of irritation and impatience .
Often it is believed that a high functioning individual can never be depressed or even tired because he seems to always be active ,agile and his metabolism could be working at its best .But that may not be the case always .
High-functioning people always seem to be on the drive manning not only their work but also of others work too. High functioning depression is a term used to describe people who experience symptoms of depression while largely maintaining their daily responsibilities and outward appearance. Such high functioning individuals often are able to maintain high flying careers, professional relationships, and social lives, making it difficult even for themselves to recognize their own depressed state of mind .It could generally be taken as tiredness and distraction and they shrug it away ,when told that they could have a depression.
Is high -functioning depression a mental illness or an emotional disorder ?
The term high-functioning depression has not been officially recognised anywhere till now neither in ICD 10 or even in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). It is thus obviously not diagnosed by your psychiatrist or a psychologist.
It’s possible for a person to meet the diagnostic criteria for major depressive disorder (MDD) or persistent depressive disorder (PDD) while hiding many of the signs and symptoms by their being busy active and over the situation.When this is the case, they may be informally described as having high-functioning depression.
Persistent Depressive disorder is a recognised mental health condition characterized by long-term, chronic bouts of depression.
High-functioning depression and PDD share similarities, but they’re not the same. The term “high-functioning depression” describes someone who mostly keeps up appearances ,despite depressive symptoms.
If you think you or a loved one may be experiencing any form of depression and feel that because of your high functioning you are not able to decide what it is , it’s important to seek professional help. A professional psychologist or a psychiatrist can provide a proper diagnosis and recommend appropriate treatment options.
Symptoms of high functioning depression
Because it’s not an official diagnosis, high-functioning depression doesn’t have distinct symptoms. Warning signs of high-functioning depression, and of depressive disorders generally, can include:
Persistent feelings of aloofness ,sadness or emptiness
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions with clarity
Periodic low self esteem and self-doubts
Persistent fatigue or regular low energy
Erratic or altered sleep patterns (not able to sleep or oversleeping)
Change in eating habits .Appetite changes (increased or decreased)
Irritation or restlessness
Loss of interest in normally previous enjoyed activities
Feelings of giving up ,hopelessness or pessimism
Physical symptoms like headaches or digestive issues
Thoughts of self harm ,death or suicide .
The situation can be different for different people.Depression can look different for everyone, and you don’t need to hit a bout of actual sickness or depression. Now is the good time for you to seek help.
People with high-functioning depression may try to hide their symptoms from others, often out of fear of being judged or a feeling of embarrassment.Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness. Even if coping with high-functioning depression seems possible on your own, you don’t need to manage without help. Treatment can help alleviate symptoms, improve quality of life, and prevent the condition from worsening over time.A person attempting to hide symptoms of depression may aggravate the problem hence let’s not delay further but talk now .
When Rashi had her first panic attack she was appearing for school board exams .She didn’t know she was having one till her throat felt dry ,her hands started trembling and all of a sudden she felt she was going to faint .That made her cry out loud for help .She wanted to immediately get out of the examination hall.
However a timely intervention by the people around helped her recover faster as she was given the first aid support in time.
Panic attacks do not come with a warning and they become too scary to those who suffer one all of sudden and if a timely help is not available the same can turn a little damaging too .
Rashi did have some stress of her ensuing examination but she had also been suffering from fever for a few days and had not yet fully recovered . She had been feeling weak, a bit tired and sleepy . In this kind of stressful situation she had suddenly developed an anxiety and lost control of mind .Her breathing seemed to have become very shallow,rapid and she had hyperventilated .
The feeling passed after little first aid support and within a few minutes she felt better although still dazed .No one knew that she had experienced her first panic attack that day, until it happened again when she was in a crowded shopping mall .
How to know if it is a panic attack
It can happen to anyone and can take place in any situation.We discuss hereunder the early signs and symptoms indicating about panic attack :
Usually it begins with a dizziness of the head and the person feels a little disoriented to the environment around .The other symptoms not necessary all of them together can be :
Mild pounding of heart in the middle of chest and feeling of fast heart beats
Shortness of breathing and feeling of suffocation
Breathless and major discomfort breathing even though the environment is not claustrophobic
Feeling a sense of numbness in the arms or legs or both
Chest pain
Hot flashes or cold sweat
Nausea
Trembling and shaking of body parts
Anxiety attack vs. panic attack
An anxiety doesn’t come all of a sudden but it builds up over time ruminating or apprehending some of the anticipated events and it remains there even when the event may not take place .Thus anxiety is triggering of the apprehension but it stays as a constant feeling disrupting the normal functioning .
A panic attack on the other hand has more debilitating effect , comes out all of a sudden and much more intense episode of fear ,anxiety and a feeling of oncoming loss of consciousness and breathing difficulty takes over .
Anxiety and panic attacks even though have similar symptoms, but panic can make one feel like one is losing control of one’s awareness,orientation .The person feels that brain and body are not coordinating . This can happen repeatedly leaving one helpless and worrying of being vulnerable all the time .Resultantly one may stop stepping out of home alone .
Some of the ways to calm down during a panic attack
Rashi was lucky when her first panic attack lasted only a few minutes and went away after help from the people around but the second time she wasn’t because it occurred in a shopping mall and help took a little longer .
Panic attacks tend to peak within a few minutes and go away also sooner but for some occasions these attacks can last longer and the person becomes restless with fear of something happening to him or her and gets panicky .
How do we control when a panic attack seems to be occurring or seems imminent:
Perceptive and Meditative Breathing;
Deep breathing has often been recommended as the compulsory activity to do when stressed .
In anxiety and panic perceptive breathing can really do magic on your mood.Lets understand how :
Close your eyes softly
Keep your body and spine supple and stress free
Now focus on the lower end (tail end ) of your spine and breathe from the nose very slowly .The mind must be completely involved in the breathing .
Inhale slowly from the nose feeling it’s impact on the lower end of the spine .
Exhale slowly from the nose taking as much time as you took inhaling
Continue for five to seven minutes
Soon you would realise your mind and body relaxing and the anxiety level coming to almost nil .
Repeat this exercise as often as you want to .
Relax your muscles and body by kayotsarga (progressive muscle relaxation exercise )
Anxiety and panic can cause your whole body to tense up making you feel uncomfortable. You can help reduce the stiffness of muscles of the body relaxing them one muscle at a time .Focus on each muscle beginning from the toes of the feet one by one and going upwards covering all parts of body one by one .An auto suggestion like ( my toes are relaxing ,my calf muscles are relaxing cover till the top of your forehead .
Move your body:yes that’s true:
Rather than sitting or lying down in panic going out for a walk or doing brisk walk in the room itself can help you bring your stress anxiety and the impending fear to a much reduced level .
Preferably you can, go for a walk outside or do some light stretching. Take yourself out of the environment that’s causing your anxiety .It will help ease your symptoms.
If you feel a panic attack coming on in a closed environment like bus ,train or an aircraft while travelling and you can’t get up and move , try these basic breathing exercises to help ground yourself and reduce the intensity of the attack.
Do some deep breathes and focus on the tip of your nostrils to feel the air getting in and exhaled air coming out . Soon you will feel better with diverted focus .
Breathe in deeply and exhale every breathe from the fingers of your feet one by one and later through each finger and toes of your hands .You will feel an ease coming to your mind and body soon.
Rub the palms of your hands slowly and putting the palms on your eyes later will help .
Doing this activity with your hands can help take your mind off anxiety a calmness sets in .
Repeat positive affirmations to yourself
A positive affirmation is a phrase or a sentence you repeat to yourself over and over but if you can write it and read it aloud ,the impact is many times more and empowering .
The statement can be
“ I am a calm person I am a powerful person “
or “I am a powerful person I can handle this situation “
Or “ I am a powerful person I have the power of mind “ .
Reading and saying these affirmations out loud can help, but if you’re in a public place and don’t feel comfortable with that, just say it silently to yourself. Make sure to read or speak the words slowly in your mind.
Get help of psychologist /Counselor
In order to prevent repeated occurrences ,you must seek the help of a psychologist .You can reach out to us at
“It happens to me every Monday morning, and believe me, doctor, I have come to dread my Sunday evenings too because I look at them as harbingers of the next week’s grueling work again,” averred Rajan*.
“At the beginning of every day, I usually open my work desk disinterestedly, with an apprehensive mindset that I may not be able to survive another week in this job,” says Lily*.
When you feel that you aren’t keeping pace with your job and procrastination becomes a habit rather than an exception, it’s time to take stock of your mental and physical health. As more and more tasks pile up, you begin with a disinterested mind. Your motivation vanishes. You start playing with the idea of going on a vacation or looking for another job. But even that doesn’t happen, as your body, mind, and brain all seem locked up in ennui.
This is exactly the time to seek help from a professional to understand whether it is simple stress or the beginning of depression. But more important is to analyse if it is a burnout situation, which can often be misunderstood as depression.
When Your Efficiency Curve Declines
The efficiency curve of humans is like any other performance curve with various stages of physical, emotional, and mental output. The curve has a rising phase, where work performance can be quite mood-elevating, bringing with it expected rewards and revenues. But soon, stagnant work performance and declining strength and output catch up with you. Your body and mind feel exhausted, and a regular sitting job in front of a laptop or computer seems very taxing. Whenever that happens, you feel quirky, irritated, or disinterested. A short break does help with rejuvenation, but repeated situations like this need to be analysed and understood.
This is where the journey of prolonged stress begins, and exhaustion or burnout creeps in without you realising why or what is happening.
How Do You Know If It’s Stress or Burnout?
There’s a difference between being stressed and being burned out. Stress happens when you’re engaged in work and sometimes get overly involved. Burnout, on the other hand, means being disengaged.
Burnout feels like you’ve checked out of your life emotionally and have nothing left to give. This severe and chronic condition goes beyond feeling overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, or fatigued. You might even experience physical effects like muscle tension, headaches, or digestive problems.
You can tell burnout from stress by noticing whether you’re avoiding work, frequently tired, and easily distracted. You also feel like a heavy load has been placed on your body and mind. People who are stressed believe things will improve once the source of stress is resolved. In burnout, nothing seems to work, and you feel like you can’t handle anything.
Signs You May Be Dealing with Burnout
Burnout occurs gradually over time. It creeps into your mental, physical, and emotional being and drains your energy completely. You sleep erratically and wake up wishing daylight had been delayed. You know you’re stuck in a vicious cycle—either of sleeplessness or oversleeping and avoidance.
Work piles up, phone calls remain unanswered, deadlines are missed. Headaches, body aches, and a general sense of listlessness and disinterest take their toll on your psyche.
When you browse the internet or seek advice, it can often be misunderstood or misdiagnosed as depression.
We advise you to get in touch with us if you need a professional assessment of your situation. Self-assessment or assumptions won’t give you an accurate diagnosis.
Our psychologist can assess, diagnose, and help you manage your burnout more effectively.
*Names and details have been changed to protect privacy.
Please note: All names and identifying details in the following article are fictional and used for illustrative purposes only.
Worry is a natural human emotion. It serves a purpose when it prompts us to constructively analyze a situation and plan a course of action. However, when worry spirals into constant fear and apprehension, it can become a debilitating emotional disturbance, hijacking the mind with perceived dangers that may never materialize. This chronic state can lead to anxiety, phobias, irrational thoughts, and obsessive behaviors.
The impact of excessive worry can manifest in various ways. Consider Mrs. Sharma, whose daughter, Julie, attends a local kindergarten. Initially, Julie was excited about school. However, she suddenly began complaining of stomach aches and refused to go. A pediatrician found no physical cause, leading to counseling sessions with Julie, her parents, and her teacher. These sessions revealed that Julie was constantly worried about her mother being alone at home.
This anxiety mirrored Mrs. Sharma’s own behavior. Concerned about her daughter’s safety on the school bus, Mrs. Sharma’s concern evolved into obsessive behavior. She would repeatedly ask the bus driver to drive slowly, and even follow the bus on her scooter until it reached the school gates. This “melodrama,” as the article calls it, continued for over a month, eventually prompting the bus attendant to request Mr. Sharma’s intervention.
Another example is Mrs. Narwhal, whose fear of germs led to elaborate rituals. She kept a separate set of clothes in her bathroom to change into immediately upon returning home. She would then bathe and wash the clothes she had worn outside, believing this would cleanse her of any contamination. While this ritual provided her with temporary relief, it disrupted the peace of her family. Any attempts to dissuade her from these practices were met with resistance, further isolating her.
The Psychology of Excessive Worry
Just as young Julie’s mind created a narrative of her mother’s potential vulnerability at home, excessive worry can distort reality for adults. It can trigger a cascade of fears, apprehensions, and dark imaginings about the safety of oneself and loved ones. This can manifest as:
Chronic anxiety: A persistent feeling of unease and apprehension.
Phobic thoughts: Irrational fears of specific objects or situations.
Obsessive compulsions: Repetitive behaviors performed to alleviate anxiety.
Generalized anxiety: Worrying about a wide range of everyday matters.
Panic attacks: Sudden episodes of intense fear accompanied by physical symptoms like rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sweating.
In severe cases, individuals may even begin to worry about their own worrying, creating a vicious cycle.
The Physical and Emotional Toll
Chronic worry can also have significant physical effects, including:
Breathlessness
Rapid heartbeat
Excessive sweating
Choking sensations
Mental suppression and distress
Difficulty focusing and concentrating
Sleep disturbances
Seeking Help
When worry becomes chronic and debilitating, professional help is crucial. Effective treatments include:
Psychotherapy: To address the underlying causes of anxiety and develop coping mechanisms.
Cognitive therapy: To identify and challenge negative thought patterns.
Holistic therapy: To address the mind-body connection and promote overall well-being.
Mindfulness and meditation: To cultivate present moment awareness and reduce anxiety.
Conclusion
While occasional worry is a normal part of life, excessive worry can have a profound impact on mental and physical health. Recognizing the signs and seeking appropriate treatment are essential steps in reclaiming control and living a more fulfilling life.
-Ramneek Kapoor – Family Therapist, Psychologist Counselor and Science of Living Expert
First, let’s hear from those who have bravely faced their obsessions and compulsions and, with the help of our four-step strategic therapy, have managed to reclaim control of their lives. Doesn’t it sound surprising that individuals who suffered from OCD for years, despite being on long-term medication, have finally found relief? It may seem unbelievable to many who have struggled with OCD for years. However, this is often due to a lack of proper guidance and corrective approaches.
Let’s listen to the inspiring stories of individuals who have successfully taken control of their OCD and are now leading normal lives:
Aarti’s Journey Aarti, 22 (name changed), doesn’t even remember when she first developed the habit of compulsively washing every piece of clothing she wore outside. Each time she returned home, whether from college or the market, she would immediately head to the washroom, change her clothes, and wash them. Initially, her parents saw this as an attempt to maintain cleanliness. However, their concern grew when they noticed her repeating this behavior throughout the day, from morning until evening.
By the time Aarti came to us, she had been on strong psychiatric medications for over six years. Despite relying on anti-anxiety and SSRI pills, her OCD persisted. It wasn’t until she began our treatment program that she experienced significant relief.
Ahmad’s Story Ahmad, a businessman in Dubai, had achieved considerable success in his career. However, he couldn’t fully enjoy his accomplishments due to intrusive, obsessive thoughts. “An unknown anxiety grips my mind over trivial matters,” Ahmad explains. This overwhelming anxiety would only subside after he performed certain repetitive acts, which frightened his family.
Prakash’s Experience Prakash, an architect, had built a flourishing career and enjoyed a high social status. Yet, he struggled with obsessive thoughts that began in high school. Although medications temporarily alleviated his symptoms, the obsessive thoughts returned with greater intensity whenever he stopped the medications for more than a week.
Understanding OCD
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental and behavioral health condition characterized by unwanted, intrusive thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behaviors (compulsions). These compulsions are performed to reduce the distress caused by obsessions, perpetuating a vicious cycle.
The cycle of OCD typically includes:
Obsession: Unwanted, intrusive thoughts or impulses.
Mental distress: Anxiety or fear triggered by these thoughts.
Compulsion: Repetitive actions performed to alleviate the distress.
Temporary relief: A short-lived sense of relief before the cycle restarts.
Common Symptoms of OCD
Obsessions
Obsessions are repetitive, intrusive thoughts that are often illogical but feel uncontrollable. These may include:
Concerns about safety or cleanliness.
Worries about relationships or social interactions.
Irrational fears about natural or unnatural phenomena.
Compulsions
Compulsions are repetitive behaviors or rituals performed to relieve the distress caused by obsessions. Common compulsions include:
Excessive cleaning or handwashing.
Repeatedly checking locks, appliances, or emails.
Counting or arranging objects.
Hoarding or obsessive texting.
Our Treatment Approach
We have developed an effective program to help clients overcome OCD and regain control of their lives:
Trans-Cranial Cerebral Spinal Stimulation Using self-projected inner sound therapy (Mahapran Dhwani), this technique targets affected brain areas. Patients undergo daily or alternate-day sessions of 45 minutes for 8–12 weeks, resulting in significant OCD remission.
Gut and Mind Correction Therapy By focusing on the gut-brain axis and ventral vagus nerve stimulation, we address the emotional and mental imbalances that trigger obsessive thoughts.
Kayotsarga and Chakra Meditation Kayotsarga exercises and chakra-focused meditation (Swas Preksha) help patients achieve emotional balance and self-regulation.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Affirmations Guided CBT sessions and positive affirmations empower patients to replace compulsive behaviors with healthier coping strategies.
Transforming Lives
Through a combination of advanced therapies, holistic practices, and expert guidance, our patients have achieved remarkable results. Many, including Aarti, Ahmad, and Prakash, are now living peaceful, medication-free lives, enjoying a sense of freedom they thought was unattainable.
Please let us know if we can help you with your OCD .
Names in this article have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.
Ruby looked at her husband, David, who had just returned from the office. His face was marked with frustration, and his usual smile was nowhere to be seen. Disheartened, Ruby retreated to the kitchen, uncertain whether it was the right time to talk. She had planned an enjoyable evening, but David’s sullen demeanor made her think otherwise. This seemingly small moment was loaded with unspoken emotions, setting the tone for the rest of their evening and, potentially, their relationship.
Deepak, on the other hand, grew up in a household where affection was openly expressed—his parents always exchanged hugs and kisses before leaving the house. Naturally, he continued this tradition with his partner, Sayali. However, Sayali wasn’t comfortable with public displays of affection and would often push him away. The rejection was evident on her face, leaving Deepak feeling disappointed and emotionally distanced. These everyday moments illustrate the powerful, often unintentional, ways we communicate with those we care about the most.
Communication goes far beyond the words we speak. Language, in all its forms, plays a critical role in conveying thoughts and emotions. However, what’s often overlooked is the powerful language of unspoken cues—expressions, gestures, and body language that communicate volumes without uttering a single word. It’s not just what you say; it’s how you say it, and often, what you don’t say at all.
Non-verbal communication includes facial expressions, tone of voice, body posture, gestures, and eye contact. These elements can either reinforce our spoken words or contradict them entirely. Research suggests that up to 93% of communication is non-verbal, with body language and tone accounting for the majority of the message conveyed. This means that even when we say nothing, we are still communicating our feelings, intentions, and state of mind.
Imagine a partner who scrolls through their phone or laptop while the other is speaking. The inattentiveness leads not only to frustration but also to emotional withdrawal. Over time, this behavior can create distance, resentment, and even communication breakdowns. Consistently feeling unimportant in such interactions can have lasting impacts on self-esteem and the relationship’s overall health. When partners fail to acknowledge each other’s presence, they unintentionally send a message of disinterest and disregard.
The Subtle Impact of Micro-Expressions
Micro-expressions—those fleeting, involuntary facial expressions that occur in a fraction of a second—can reveal true emotions, even when we try to hide them. For example, a brief flash of anger, sadness, or disdain can be easily detected by our subconscious, influencing how we perceive a conversation or a person’s mood. These subtle cues often dictate the emotional direction of an interaction, especially when words fail to align with what’s truly being felt.
For instance, David’s irritated expression as he walked in the door was a micro-expression that Ruby picked up on instantly. Although he hadn’t spoken a word, his face told Ruby that he was upset, making her second-guess her plans for the evening. Similarly, Sayali’s look of discomfort whenever Deepak tried to show affection was a non-verbal signal that his actions were unwelcome, which deeply affected how he perceived their relationship.
The Cost of Taking Each Other for Granted
Relationships often fall into the trap of routine, where partners begin to take each other for granted. Picture this: you come home after a long day, expecting at least a warm smile or some acknowledgment, but instead, your partner is slouched on the sofa, absorbed in the TV, barely noticing your presence. You feel dismissed, unvalued, and hurt. These small yet significant moments accumulate, shaping how we feel about each other and our relationship.
The face, often referred to as the “index of the mind,” is a powerful communicator of our internal world. From infancy, we learn to read emotions from facial expressions. A warm smile, nod of agreement, or a gentle touch can convey understanding and connection. Conversely, a frown, lack of eye contact, or a dismissive wave can leave us feeling ignored and misunderstood.
The Impact of Unspoken Expectations
Unspoken expectations are another layer of non-verbal communication that can strain relationships. When one partner expects certain behaviors—like being greeted warmly after work or receiving a kiss before bed—and those expectations aren’t met, it creates a silent yet palpable tension. Over time, unmet expectations can breed resentment and feelings of neglect.
A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who frequently felt misunderstood due to non-verbal miscommunications were more likely to report lower relationship satisfaction. This suggests that it’s not just the big arguments that erode intimacy but also the silent, everyday disconnects that can quietly undermine a partnership.
Parental Influence: Setting the Emotional Tone for the Household
Children learn by observing. They mimic the emotional cues they see from their parents, often carrying these learned behaviors into adulthood. As parents, we set the emotional climate of our home. Positive expressions—such as smiling, engaging warmly with our loved ones, and showing enthusiasm in daily interactions—can create a nurturing environment that fosters healthy emotional development in children.
Imagine a household where parents frequently argue with scowls and angry gestures. Even without raising their voices, children sense the hostility and internalize it as part of their emotional landscape. On the contrary, a home where parents greet each other with kindness, maintain eye contact, and show affection sets a foundation for secure attachment and positive emotional health in children.
I recall visiting my friend Dimple during our school days. Her home was always filled with laughter and warmth, thanks to her mother’s welcoming nature. Dimple absorbed this positivity, carrying it forward into her own relationships. In contrast, my friend Manishaa grew up in a home where affection was scarce, and tension was palpable. Her mother’s stern looks and unwelcoming attitude led Manishaa to retreat emotionally, impacting her ability to connect with others as an adult.
The Ripple Effect of Emotional Expression
Our expressions don’t just affect those we direct them towards; they also have a ripple effect on the broader environment. A cheerful greeting can brighten the mood of an entire household, while a frown can dampen it. In the workplace, a simple nod of recognition can make an employee feel valued, while a dismissive gesture can undermine confidence and morale.
In parenting, the impact of non-verbal cues is even more pronounced. Children are highly attuned to the emotional climate of their home and often mirror their parents’ behaviors. When parents consistently display warmth and positive body language, it cultivates a sense of safety and belonging. Conversely, repeated exposure to negative expressions can lead to anxiety, withdrawal, and emotional distress in children.
Navigating Negative Emotions: The Art of Emotional Self-Regulation
We all experience a range of emotions—anger, frustration, stress, or disappointment. These are natural responses to life’s challenges. However, the way we express these emotions, especially around loved ones, matters immensely. Unconscious negative expressions—such as rolling eyes, frowning, or using a dismissive tone—can create feelings of rejection and hurt, pushing people away instead of drawing them closer.
Learning to manage and regulate our emotions is essential for healthy relationships. Emotional self-regulation doesn’t mean suppressing feelings but rather acknowledging them and choosing a mindful response. Taking a deep breath before reacting, practicing active listening, and using gentle facial expressions can significantly alter the course of a difficult interaction.
Practical Tips for Positive Non-Verbal Communication
Be Mindful of Your Facial Expressions: Our faces often reveal our emotions before we even speak. Practice maintaining a neutral or warm expression, especially during conversations with loved ones.
Use Eye Contact to Show Engagement: Looking someone in the eyes when they’re speaking shows that you’re present and paying attention. Avoid looking at your phone or being distracted when someone is talking to you.
Mirror Positive Body Language: Subtly mirroring your partner’s positive gestures can create a sense of connection. For instance, if they lean in while talking, do the same.
Practice Active Listening with Your Whole Body: Nod occasionally, use small verbal acknowledgments like “I see” or “I understand,” and face the person when they’re speaking.
Be Conscious of Your Tone and Posture: Even a comforting phrase can feel cold if delivered in a flat tone or with closed-off body language. Keep your posture open and relaxed.
Acknowledge and Apologize for Negative Expressions: If you catch yourself rolling your eyes or frowning during a conversation, acknowledge it and apologize. This shows accountability and a willingness to improve.
Conclusion: Embrace the Power of Positive Expression
The way we express ourselves, both verbally and non-verbally, has a profound impact on our relationships. By being mindful of our emotional expressions and making conscious efforts to display positive body language, we can strengthen our bonds with our partners, children, and everyone around us. Let’s strive to be intentional with our gestures, creating an environment where love, respect, and understanding thrive.
Positive communication is not just about speaking the right words; it’s about embodying the attitudes and emotions that build connection. By recognizing the power of non-verbal cues and embracing their influence, we can cultivate healthier, happier relationships that stand the test of time.
As families become more distant and dispersed due to career opportunities, the issue of elderly isolation is becoming increasingly important. Aging parents are often left alone as their children move to different cities or countries. This situation raises significant concerns about the mental and physical health of the elderly, who lack the daily support and companionship of their loved ones.
Mr. Subhash, an 80-year-old, and his wife Sita, aged 76, have been living alone for the past twenty years. Their two sons moved abroad for career opportunities and visit only once every three years. This limited contact leaves the elderly couple feeling isolated and disconnected from their family. Mr. Subhash suffers from sleep disorders, depression, and anxiety, while Sita, despite her own health issues, bravely supports him in his visits to the psychologist.
Similarly, Mr. Naweja, a businessman in his mid-seventies, faces a similar struggle. After losing his wife five years ago, he found it hard to adjust when his children moved to metro cities to build their careers. Despite multiple physical and mental health issues, he chose to return to his hometown to continue his business rather than remain alone in an unfamiliar city.
Mrs. Khedekar offers another poignant example. She lost her husband in her early forties and was left to raise her two sons alone. Today, her elder son lives abroad, while the younger one resides in a different city. Years of loneliness have led to severe mental health problems, including psychosis and schizophrenia. Even with a trained nurse, her isolation exacerbates her condition, causing frequent setbacks in her treatment.
The Rising Issue of Elderly Care and Loneliness
These cases are not isolated incidents; they reflect a growing trend where elderly individuals are left alone without the emotional and physical support of their families. As children move away to pursue their careers, their parents are left to fend for themselves, resulting in not just emotional stress but also severe impacts on their physical and mental health.
Young couples often choose to live separately from their parents to build their relationship, which can be beneficial but should include regular communication and visits to avoid the unintended consequence of elderly loneliness.
Key Facts on Elderly Isolation and Mental Health
The world’s population is aging rapidly. By 2050, the proportion of people over 60 years old will nearly double, from 12% to 22%. In India, there are currently 138 million elderly people, with approximately 15% suffering from mental health disorders. Many seniors face challenges such as reduced mobility, chronic pain, and a decline in cognitive functions, making them vulnerable to mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and loneliness.
There are several risk factors for mental health problems among older adults:
Physical Health Decline: Older adults often suffer from reduced mobility, chronic illnesses, and frailty, which can limit their activities and social engagement.
Emotional Stressors: Events such as bereavement, retirement, and a decline in socioeconomic status can increase feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Lack of Social Interaction: Living alone without regular contact with family and friends can lead to psychological distress and mental health disorders.
Mental health issues, like depression, are closely linked to physical health problems. For example, elderly people with heart disease are more likely to suffer from depression, and untreated depression can worsen their overall health.
Elder Abuse and Its Impact on Mental Health
Elderly people are also at risk of abuse, including physical, emotional, financial, and social abuse. Current evidence suggests that 1 in 6 older adults experiences some form of elder abuse. This abuse can lead to serious, long-lasting psychological consequences, such as depression, anxiety, and a deep sense of isolation.
How Families Can Support Their Aging Parents
The big question remains: How can families support their aging parents when they live far away? Here are some actionable steps to help improve the situation:
Regular Communication: Regularly check in on your elderly loved ones through phone calls, video chats, and social media to maintain emotional connections.
Encourage Social Engagement: Encourage participation in community activities, clubs, or groups to help them stay socially active and reduce loneliness.
Professional Support: Hire trained caregivers or psychologists to provide professional help and companionship, ensuring that the elderly receive both medical and emotional support.
Create Senior-Friendly Environments: Encourage local communities and urban planners to create safe, accessible spaces where the elderly can socialize and feel secure.
Comprehensive Elder Care Programs: Advocate for better elder care programs that offer medical, psychological, and social support to help seniors live independently and with dignity.
Practical Solutions for Combating Elderly Isolation
Addressing the issue of elderly isolation requires a collective effort from families, communities, and policymakers. Here are a few practical steps:
Technology Integration: Teach the elderly to use technology like smartphones and social media platforms to stay in touch with family and friends. Virtual interaction can help bridge the gap created by physical distance.
Regular Health Checkups: Encourage regular health checkups and mental health screenings to detect and manage conditions early.
Elder Care Agencies: Use reliable elder care services that offer companionship, daily assistance, and medical support.
Community Support Programs: Join local community support groups that focus on elderly well-being, providing opportunities for social interaction and companionship.
Conclusion: Building a Supportive Environment for the Elderly
As families grow distant in this globalized world, it is crucial to ensure that elderly people do not feel abandoned or isolated. Families must find a balance between pursuing their dreams and maintaining meaningful connections with their aging parents. By fostering a culture of respect, care, and support, we can help our elderly live their golden years with dignity, love, and fulfillment.
Kalpana*, a company general manager, had a close call on the highway while driving home from work. Another driver abruptly overtook her, almost causing her to collide with the road divider. Startled and frustrated, Kalpana instinctively rolled down her window to express her anger. But as she noticed the other driver—a woman seemingly in a rush—Kalpana paused. In that brief moment, she considered the potential consequences of the encounter. She realized that her own rush to get home before her husband’s return had amplified her emotions, leading her to empathize with the other driver’s possible reasons for haste.
Such incidents are increasingly common as the frantic pace of daily life pushes individuals towards road rage. However, Kalpana’s ability to empathize allowed her to diffuse her anger—a crucial skill in managing intense emotions.
Anger is often misunderstood as a singular, isolated reaction, but it is actually a complex interplay of emotions and experiences. Recognizing this complexity is essential in addressing its underlying causes and preventing it from escalating.
Controlling anger is notoriously challenging, as it can lead to irrational behavior and negative consequences. Kalpana’s restraint on the road prevented a situation from spiraling out of control, a stark contrast to the unfortunate incident involving the Maharishi family.
Deepak Maharishi, a young man of 24, was driving his car with his mother beside him. As they neared their destination, an autorickshaw driver suddenly applied the brakes. Despite Deepak’s efforts to stop, his car bumped into the rear of the autorickshaw. Instead of assessing the situation calmly, Mrs. Maharishi immediately yelled at the autorickshaw driver, escalating tensions on the road. The confrontation soon spiraled into a chaotic scene, requiring police intervention to restore order.
Mrs. Maharishi’s reaction to the minor accident illustrates how unchecked anger can quickly escalate into larger conflicts. In moments like these, taking a moment to pause and assess the situation can prevent anger from overwhelming rational thought.
In contrast, finding ways to redirect attention—like Kalpana’s empathy, or even Manoj’s retreat to a serene location—can effectively diffuse anger. These strategies, though seemingly unconventional, offer powerful tools for emotional regulation.
In conclusion, managing anger requires a deep understanding of its origins and the implementation of effective coping mechanisms. By cultivating empathy, practicing self-awareness, and embracing moments of tranquility, individuals can navigate conflicts with composure and resilience, turning potential crises into opportunities for growth.
Rita, 32, has been negative and irritated for over a month. Her husband’s job is uncertain, and her bosses discuss similar issues at work.
David, 49, hasn’t dealt well with being denied a promotion. He feels his education, skills, and years of performance have been wasted. He fears premature retirement despite having more to offer.
Ashvani, 45, works globally but hasn’t had a project in a while, causing anxiety about his job. His family notices his stress, boredom, and anxiety.
Names are changed, but their situations are real. Careers seem to be falling apart suddenly. Why is their life in parentheses now?
The dreaded pink slip is making a comeback in IT and other industries after a decade of growth. Layoffs at companies like Microsoft, Google, and Amazon are causing anxiety and stress among employees. A job isn’t just a source of income; it’s a career, personal identity, and self-fulfillment. When threatened, it leads to negativity, self-criticism, and alienation.
From adolescence, we’re pushed to pursue careers that may not exist yet. We spend the first quarter of our lives getting educated and skilled for a job, and then our entire lives working. This affects our overall well-being. Realizing your job and career, the essence of your life, is being taken away can cause sleeplessness, stress, and unhappiness.
The threatening environment in the current job can negatively impact all aspects of life. It’s a wake-up call to reflect, evaluate, and plan—whether updating skills, upgrading, or finding a new career path.
How does this impact me and my family?
In today’s competitive era, any stage of life can bring the realization of a job’s psychological impact. Clients from early starters to top executives, exhausted and burnt out, question their career path. Well-intentioned parents push children into careers for financial security, often overlooking personal and professional needs.
Unfulfilling jobs negatively impact mental health. This needs addressing.
Signs of being in an unfulfilling career:
Feeling Wasted Time: Not living up to potential.
Low Self-Esteem: Unworthy, insecure, and fearful.
Job Threats: Worry about job security and financial well-being.
Relationship Stress: Long hours, dissatisfaction, and unappreciation.
What can I do to help myself?
Identify Emotions: Recognize how your career impacts your mental health.
Seek Professional Support: A psychologist can provide objective help.
Communicate: Discuss job stress with your spouse to avoid misunderstandings.
Journal: Reflect on your situations calmly.
Self-Care: Physical health is essential. Implement a self-care routine.
Change Perspective: Notice positive aspects of your job.
Make Changes: Evaluate options within your current position or environment.
Career Shift: If necessary, explore new career paths for fulfillment.
If your current career is negatively impacting your mental health, and you want to make changes, talking with a mentor, close friend, or family member can help. If you’re experiencing anxiety, anger, feelings of depression, or other negative emotions, and they are impacting your life, working with a therapist can help. You can get in touch with us at:
Have you of late been feeling deep in the woods? Do you feel the world is out to get you? Do you really feel the next Johnny is better than you? Do you want to just lie down and not look at the world in the daylight, with the curtains drawn and the lights off all the time? The day just seems to drag on, the night becomes all the more difficult, and sleep seems to have eluded you for many days. Do you look at the world as a real queer place with all the folks giving you advice to go and do something about it?
Do you:
Beat yourself up over silly mistakes,
Feel always sick and tired on account of not sleeping well,
Constantly grapple with unwanted thoughts running through your mind all the time,
Feel tormented with traumas and pains of life’s doings and undoings.
The doctor might say you have depression and a mood disorder. Others would simply call it an inability to face the stresses of the world and may associate it with anxiety attacks. Some could have compassion for you, or some could just call you a lazy buff. But do you really feel all that advice is necessary when all you are doing is being comfortable in the discomfort of inertia and the negation of the self?
But is it not a fact that you do want to feel truly good, only if someone could help you overcome this inertia of depression? The visits to the psychiatrists do not seem to have helped much, as they do nothing but prescribe a different medicine every time you go to them.
Here is a simple remedy that can help you overcome the negativity that seems to have entered your mind and life.
Make an attempt to accept yourself and feel a profound sense of warmth and self-importance. No, I am not advising you to become a megalomaniac, but asking you to feel the powers that be within you to resurrect your life. You have some magnetic power that makes you unique, that makes you “ME.” Identify this “ME” and make all efforts to become “ME.”
We often look at others and not only compare ourselves with others but also be always busy in the process of becoming others. But would becoming others make us happy or satisfied? No, not at all. The more we look outward towards others, the more we get dissociated with the self, the real “ME,” that always wants to excel and be recognized. But the rat race of becoming others, the eagerness of doing like the others do, pushes this “ME” to the unknown depths of ignominy.
We regularly conduct Preksha Meditation classes at Alka Mansik Pramarsh Foundation, and our experiences reveal that the meditation of self-acceptance makes people gain positivity and a happy state of mind which cannot be compared to others because, in this, there is no “other.” The learning of the self can definitely be compared to the learning of new things and being part of something bigger, some sacred and celestial happiness and satisfaction.
If you want to feel this, self-acceptance is the habit you need to inculcate gradually in your mind.
Start by writing all the positive things about you on a paper, even if you feel there is nothing positive that you can write about yourself, just write the following statement:
“I am a powerful person. I have the power of mind.”
Continue writing a full page, then meditate on this, and you will gradually start feeling good.
You must accept yourself in a positive fashion, and that will help you overcome barriers to self-acceptance. Come and learn with us the daily self-acceptance practices that result in psychological and emotional healing.
Ramneek Kapoor, Clinical Psychologist and Family Therapist, Science of Living, Preksha Meditation Expert
Families are often envisioned as the cornerstone of love, support, and growth. However, the reality is far more nuanced, with many families grappling with the complexities of dysfunction, unresolved conflicts, and intergenerational trauma. In this blog post, we will deep-dive into the profound impacts of dysfunctional family dynamics, exploring real-life examples and therapeutic insights to understand the journey towards healing and restoring familial harmony.
The Ripple Effects of Dysfunction:
Meet Kritika and Vijay (names changed), whose experiences epitomize the enduring repercussions of dysfunctional family environments. Their stories resonate deeply with countless individuals who have experienced familial dysfunction. Kritika and Vijay, having weathered tumultuous family dynamics in their formative years, continue to grapple with the emotional scars, even a decade into their marriage. Their unresolved traumas have cast a long shadow over their parenting journey, as their children inherit the legacy of unresolved conflict and emotional turmoil.
Dr. Kritika, a pseudonym for a real individual, provides a poignant example of the intergenerational transmission of dysfunction. Raised amidst the daily tumult of her parents’ disputes, she and her siblings bore witness to a triangular drama that played out with agonizing regularity. Lines were drawn, allegiances shifted, and familial bonds strained under the weight of unresolved grievances.
The ripple effects of dysfunctional family dynamics extend far beyond the immediate participants, permeating the lives of subsequent generations. Individuals like Sejal, Sonia, Kamolika, Anand, and Sumit, though fictional in name, embody the collective struggles of those who have endured traumatic family events. From PTSD and anxiety to deep-seated mistrust and unresolved phobias, the psychological toll of dysfunctional family dynamics reverberates through every facet of their lives. Moreover, their own children and spouses find themselves unwitting participants in a cycle of dysfunction, perpetuating the cycle unless intervention occurs.
Understanding Triangulation:
Central to our understanding of dysfunctional family dynamics is the concept of triangulation. What begins as innocuous interactions can quickly devolve into accusations, misunderstandings, and unresolved emotions, with family members unwittingly assuming roles as perpetrators, victims, or mediators. Left unchecked, these patterns of dysfunction can become entrenched, eroding familial bonds and hindering individual growth.
Yet, amidst the turmoil, there is hope. Through innovative therapeutic approaches, families can take on healing and reconciliation, managing past trauma to embrace a future defined by mutual understanding and support.
The Path to Healing:
At our organization, we offer a framework for addressing the underlying issues that contribute to familial dysfunction, empowering you to break free from the shackles of intergenerational trauma. Central to this process is the cultivation of empathy and understanding, both within the family unit and in the broader community.
By creating a safe space for open dialogue and honest communication, we begin the healing process, allowing individuals to confront their past traumas and head towards a brighter future. Through individual and group therapy sessions, families learn to navigate conflict constructively.
For individuals like Kritika and Vijay, the journey towards healing is challenging, but ultimately important. By confronting their past traumas and embracing a future defined by mutual respect and understanding, they lay the foundation for a closer bond.
Conclusion:
Through therapeutic support, families heal and reconcile, overcoming past trauma for mutual understanding. Together, we can break the cycle of dysfunction.
Entering into marriage is a significant milestone in any couple’s life. As two individuals commit to sharing their lives together, it’s not uncommon for questions, doubts, and concerns to arise. Recognizing the importance of solidifying their foundation, many couples turn to pre-marital counseling to address these issues. However, before embarking on this journey, it’s essential for couples to understand what questions to ask their psychologist counselor.
1. What should we ask the counselor separately and as a couple?
Individual concerns and dynamics within the relationship are crucial aspects to address. Asking about the structure of counseling sessions and how they balance individual and joint discussions can help clarify expectations.
2. Does every couple need pre-marital counseling?
While it’s not a requirement for every couple, pre-marital counseling can offer invaluable insights and tools for navigating the challenges that may arise in marriage. Discussing whether it’s right for their specific situation is essential for couples to consider.
3. We’ve known each other for so long, why do we need counseling now?
Even couples with a long history may benefit from counseling. It provides an opportunity to explore aspects of the relationship that may not have been previously addressed and to ensure both partners are on the same page regarding their expectations for marriage.
4. Will counseling sessions be private, or will other couples be involved?
Understanding the format of counseling sessions is vital for couples’ comfort levels. Discussing preferences with the counselor can help tailor the experience to suit the couple’s needs.
5. Will our parents be involved in the counseling process?
While parental involvement is not typically a standard part of pre-marital counseling, some couples may choose to involve their parents in discussions about family dynamics or cultural expectations. Clarifying this with the counselor can help set boundaries and expectations.
6. How will counseling help us build a strong marital relationship?
Exploring the specific goals of counseling and the strategies the counselor employs can provide insight into how the process will benefit the couple. From communication skills to conflict resolution techniques, counseling offers practical tools for building a resilient partnership.
7. How many sessions will be necessary?
Understanding the time commitment required for counseling is essential for planning purposes. While the number of sessions can vary depending on the couple’s needs and goals, discussing a rough timeline with the counselor can help manage expectations.
Navigating the complexities of pre-marital counseling requires open communication and a willingness to address difficult questions. By engaging in this process, couples can lay the groundwork for a healthy and fulfilling marriage, equipped with the tools to overcome challenges and grow together.
Entering into a new relationship is akin to embarking on a journey filled with excitement, anticipation, and perhaps a touch of apprehension.
As individuals, we navigate through life’s roles and responsibilities, often enveloped within our self-imposed privacy within families and societal constructs. Preparing for a new relationship involves acknowledging and addressing the stress and strains inherent in our individual lives while nurturing the foundation for a fulfilling partnership.
Marital counseling emerges as a pivotal tool in this journey, offering couples a roadmap to create a relationship that harmonizes the need for personal space with the desire for intimacy. It serves as a guiding light, illuminating the path towards a bond characterized by mutual respect, understanding, and unwavering support. Through counseling, couples are encouraged to envision their relationship as two fully bloomed flowers, each exuding its unique fragrance of love and affection while coexisting in harmonious unity.
The journey of preparing for a new relationship is underpinned by a dedication to marriage—an unwavering commitment that serves as the bedrock upon which enduring love is built. This dedication transcends mere words, encompassing a myriad of qualities essential for a thriving partnership.
Love forms the cornerstone of this dedication, infusing every interaction with warmth and compassion. Humor acts as a balm, easing tensions and fostering a sense of joy in shared moments. Mutual growth becomes the guiding principle, as couples embark on a journey of self-discovery and evolution, hand in hand.
Resilience emerges as a defining trait, as partners navigate life’s inevitable challenges with unwavering strength and fortitude. Shared goals provide a common purpose, binding couples together in pursuit of a shared vision for their future. Respect for each other’s beliefs—be they religious, cultural, or personal—becomes non-negotiable, fostering an environment of acceptance and inclusion.
Communication serves as the lifeblood of the relationship, nurturing understanding and empathy between partners. Friendship blossoms alongside love, anchoring the relationship in a foundation of trust and camaraderie. And woven through it all is a profound yearning for companionship—a deep-seated desire to walk hand in hand through life’s journey, sharing its joys and sorrows as one.
In the intricate tapestry of marriage, each of these qualities acts as a thread, weaving together to form a beautiful garden of love and companionship. Yet, just as a single missing petal can cause a flower to wilt, the absence of any of these qualities can imperil the sanctity of the marital bond. It is here that the importance of pre-marital counseling becomes abundantly clear.
Pre-marital counseling serves as a nurturing force, providing couples with the tools and insights necessary to weather life’s storms and emerge stronger together. It offers a safe space for couples to explore their hopes, fears, and aspirations, laying the groundwork for open and honest communication. Through guided exercises and discussions, couples are empowered to confront potential areas of conflict, fostering a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and desires.
Moreover, pre-marital counseling equips couples with invaluable coping strategies, enabling them to navigate the inevitable challenges that arise in any relationship. Whether it be financial stresses, family dynamics, or personal differences, couples emerge from counseling with a newfound sense of resilience and unity.
Crucially, pre-marital counseling addresses the root causes of marital discord, thereby serving as a potent deterrent against the rising tide of divorce. By fostering a culture of introspection and communication, counseling empowers couples to confront issues head-on, rather than allowing them to fester and grow unchecked. In doing so, it not only strengthens individual relationships but also contributes to the collective fabric of society, reducing the prevalence of fractured families and broken homes.
In conclusion, the journey of preparing for a new relationship is one fraught with both excitement and uncertainty. Yet, through the guidance of pre-marital counseling, couples can navigate this journey with confidence and grace. By cultivating a relationship grounded in love, respect, and understanding, couples lay the foundation for a partnership that will endure the test of time.
There’s a common misconception that children can easily bounce back from anxiety, often by receiving positive reinforcement, treats like chocolate, gifts, or by distracting them with video games. However, anxiety doesn’t affect children in the same way as it does adults. It can manifest in various forms such as panic attacks, tantrums, sudden bursts of energy, or defiant behavior. Unfortunately, as parents, we sometimes overlook these signs, attributing them to mere misbehavior or peer influence. Yet, children’s reactions are influenced by their immediate circumstances, past experiences, and future expectations.
As psychologists, counselors, and family therapists, we frequently encounter parents and family members of our clients who grapple with anxiety. Interestingly, even in families with good parental coordination, children may also struggle with anxiety.
Some parents choose to conceal their own anxieties and issues from their children, attempting to maintain a façade of normalcy. However, children are perceptive and can pick up on anxiety cues through verbal and nonverbal communication, parental mood swings, or even by witnessing family events. Consequently, children may develop anxiety or panic attacks in response.
In cases where parents argue or undermine each other, the impact on children can be profound. Witnessing parental discord can lead to feelings of fear, abandonment, and emotional distress in children. For them, family represents security and stability, and any disruption to this dynamic can trigger anxiety.
It’s crucial for parents to recognize that children absorb stress and trauma experienced by their parents, even if it’s not overtly expressed. Children may internalize anxieties stemming from family dynamics, leading to feelings of insecurity and fear of abandonment. Even seemingly minor issues for adults can significantly impact children, causing deep-seated insecurities and anxieties.
Children often blame themselves for parental conflicts or separations, harboring feelings of guilt and abandonment. They struggle to emotionally connect with the single parent they live with while maintaining a make-believe relationship with the absent parent, further exacerbating their anxiety.
Parental disputes can shatter a child’s sense of security, eroding trust and self-confidence. Despite assumptions that children are resilient and adaptable, prolonged exposure to anxiety-inducing environments can have lasting effects on their mental well-being.
During counseling sessions, we’ve observed various symptoms of anxiety in children:
Dissociation: Children may mentally disconnect from family stressors, creating imaginary worlds to cope with emotional pain. For instance, Riya, aged 6, began conversing with her doll as a means of escape from her parents’ constant arguments.
Behavioral Issues: Anxiety may manifest as behavioral problems like hyperactivity, impulsiveness, and inattentiveness, as seen in Monty, aged 9, who exhibits symptoms of ADHD due to parental neglect.
Depression: Chronic emotional outbursts within the family can lead to mood disorders in children, as observed in Deepa, aged 10, who was diagnosed with depression.
Gastrointestinal Issues: Anxiety can manifest physically, such as in Meenu, aged 5, who experiences abdominal discomfort and constipation due to parental stress.
Validation Seeking: Children may lack self-confidence and constantly seek validation from parents or caregivers, as seen in Divya, aged 11, who struggles to express herself confidently.
It’s essential for parents and educators to recognize these symptoms and provide appropriate support. Seeking professional help from psychologists for evaluation and counseling can be beneficial for both children and parents.
By acknowledging that children can be affected by parental anxieties and providing a supportive environment for open communication, parents can help alleviate children’s anxieties and promote emotional well-being. Encouraging children to express their fears and concerns openly and reassuring them of parental support can foster resilience and coping mechanisms to navigate familial stressors.
Parenting a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) comes with unique challenges, particularly concerning their behavior. Many parents seek guidance on understanding and managing the behavior of their children affected by ASD. With appropriate strategies and support, much of the stress and strain associated with these difficulties can be alleviated, benefiting both the family and the child.
Behavioral challenges among children with ASD encompass various aspects, including communication, social interaction, adherence to schedules, and sensory processing. It’s crucial for parents and caregivers to recognize that seemingly inappropriate behaviors are often symptomatic of the underlying difficulties these children face in their daily interactions and communication with others.
Identifying the Root Causes of Behavioral Challenges
The causes of behavioral difficulties in children with ASD typically revolve around several key factors:
Communication difficulties: Children with ASD encounter challenges in both verbal and expressive language, as well as in understanding non-verbal cues. This struggle can lead to frustration for both the child and the communicator, often resulting in behaviors that may appear problematic but stem from communication barriers.
Social interaction challenges: Beyond communication, individuals with ASD often struggle to comprehend social cues and navigate social situations effectively. This difficulty extends to understanding others’ perspectives and adhering to social norms, making social interactions overwhelming and potentially leading to avoidance or feelings of being harassed.
Difficulty with unstructured time: Children with ASD often rely on structured schedules to navigate their day effectively. Situations lacking a clear routine can cause confusion and frustration, leading to behavioral challenges such as acting out or feeling overwhelmed.
Sensory processing issues: Many individuals with ASD experience heightened or diminished sensitivity to sensory stimuli, leading to sensory overload or seeking behaviors. These challenges can manifest in various ways, such as sensitivity to touch, selective eating habits, or discomfort with loud noises.
Moreover, individuals with ASD typically struggle with adapting to change, making transitions and unexpected events particularly challenging. It’s essential for parents to be mindful of environmental or schedule changes that may trigger problem behaviors, including illness, which can exacerbate sensitivities and communication barriers.
Addressing Problem Behaviors
When dealing with problem behaviors in children with ASD, it’s crucial to approach them with understanding and empathy. Rather than reacting to the behavior itself, it’s essential to identify the underlying needs or triggers driving the behavior. Keeping a behavior diary can help parents pinpoint patterns and triggers, enabling them to develop strategies to manage or avoid these situations effectively.
Supportive therapies play a vital role in helping children with ASD cope with frustration and regulate their behavior. These therapies may include exercise, quiet time in a calming environment, and engaging in relaxing activities. Setting realistic treatment goals and allowing for gradual progress is key, as individuals with ASD may struggle with rapid changes or integration of new behaviors.
Effective Strategies for Supporting Children with ASD
To optimize support for children with ASD, parents and caregivers can implement various strategies tailored to their unique needs:
Clear and concise communication: Using simple language and visual supports can aid in overcoming communication barriers and enhancing understanding.
Utilize visual aids: Visual schedules and social stories can help children with ASD anticipate and navigate daily routines and social situations more effectively.
Emotion identification: Helping children recognize and express their emotions through visual aids or physical cues can facilitate emotional understanding and regulation.
Relaxation techniques: Incorporating relaxation activities into the child’s daily routine can help them manage stress and sensory sensitivities more effectively.
Create a soothing environment: Minimizing sensory distractions in the child’s environment, such as loud noises or bright lights, can promote a sense of calm and reduce sensory overload.
Positive reinforcement: Tailoring praise and rewards to suit the child’s preferences and sensitivities can encourage desired behaviors and reinforce positive interactions.
Seeking Professional Support
In cases where a child’s behavior poses a risk to themselves or others, seeking professional help from psychologists or psychiatrists is essential. Professional intervention can provide specialized assessment and guidance tailored to the child’s needs, ensuring comprehensive support and intervention.
For additional support and guidance, parents can reach out to us at Alka Mansik Pramarsh Foundation. With qualified psychologists, our center offers counseling and assistance to families navigating the challenges of raising a child with ASD. Whether through email or phone consultation, seeking support from knowledgeable professionals can empower parents to effectively support their child’s development and well-being. You can reach out to us at mansikpramarsh@gmail.com or +91-9179383554.
In conclusion, understanding and supporting children with ASD require patience, empathy, and a tailored approach to addressing their unique needs and challenges. By employing effective strategies and seeking professional support when needed, parents and caregivers can provide invaluable support to their child’s growth and development, fostering a positive and nurturing environment for their overall well-being.
In a world where love often seems to flow outwardly towards others, we often forget the essential foundation of love: loving oneself. The adage “love yourself, because if you don’t, no one else will” rings true, yet many struggle to prioritize self-love amidst the demands of daily life and societal expectations.
The question of who the most important person in one’s life is elicits varied responses, revealing a common tendency to prioritize others over oneself. From romantic partners to children, parents, and friends, individuals often place their own needs and desires on the backburner in favor of nurturing relationships with others. This selflessness, while admirable, can lead to feelings of loneliness, emptiness, and even depression when one’s own needs go unmet.
Society has long praised the spirit of sacrifice as the ultimate virtue, but perhaps we’ve misunderstood the true essence of selflessness. While acts of giving and sacrifice are noble, they should not come at the expense of neglecting one’s own well-being.
Lord Krishna’s teachings to Arjuna emphasize the importance of acting without attachment to the outcome, but they also underscore the significance of honoring the self. Neglecting oneself in the pursuit of pleasing others ultimately diminishes one’s own capacity to give and love fully.
Self-love is not selfish; it is a prerequisite for genuine connection and fulfillment in relationships. Just as a mother must nourish herself to properly care for her child, individuals must prioritize their own physical, mental, and spiritual well-being to be of service to others. This concept may seem counterintuitive in a culture that glorifies self-sacrifice, but it is essential for creating sustainable and healthy relationships.
Cultivating self-love requires a conscious effort to prioritize one’s own needs and desires. It involves setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and acknowledging one’s worth independent of external validation. Learning to love oneself is a journey that requires patience, compassion, and vulnerability. It means embracing both our strengths and weaknesses, recognizing that imperfection is inherent to the human experience.
The path to self-love begins with self-awareness. Taking the time to reflect on our values, passions, and aspirations allows us to connect with our authentic selves. From there, we can identify the areas of our lives that need nurturing and attention. This may involve letting go of limiting beliefs, forgiving ourselves for past mistakes, and embracing our unique gifts and talents.
Self-love also involves practicing self-compassion. We are often our own harshest critics, but learning to treat ourselves with kindness and understanding is essential for fostering a positive self-image. Rather than dwelling on our flaws and shortcomings, we can choose to focus on our strengths and accomplishments. Self-compassion enables us to weather life’s challenges with resilience and grace.
Pampering oneself is not indulgent; it is an act of self-love. Whether it’s treating oneself to a relaxing spa day, indulging in a favorite hobby, or simply taking a moment to savor the present, self-care is essential for nourishing the mind, body, and soul. In a world that glorifies busyness and productivity, carving out time for self-care may feel like a luxury, but it is a necessary investment in our overall well-being.
Believing in our own worthiness is perhaps the most powerful aspect of self-love. When we recognize our inherent value as individuals, we no longer seek validation or approval from others. Instead, we derive our sense of self-worth from within, knowing that we are worthy of love and acceptance simply by virtue of being human.
In conclusion, embracing self-love is not a selfish act; it is a necessary foundation for building healthy, fulfilling relationships with others. By prioritizing our own well-being, we become better equipped to give and receive love authentically. Self-love is not a destination but a journey—one that requires patience, courage, and self-compassion. As we learn to love ourselves unconditionally, we pave the way for a life filled with joy, connection, and abundance.
Being in love is wonderful, isn’t it? Dating, feeling those butterflies, and longing to see each other again—it’s a special time. But as relationships grow, they change. Long-term relationships are about more than just love; they’re about managing life together.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, you’re not just looking out for yourself anymore. You’re building a life with someone else. That means dealing with all sorts of things: money, jobs, family, and more. It’s not always easy.
Communication is key. It’s how you talk about your problems and work through them together. Every argument is a chance to make your relationship stronger. Instead of fighting, try to understand each other’s point of view. That’s how you grow as a couple.
One of the hardest parts is merging your lives. You’re bringing together two different worlds, with different families, careers, and goals. It takes compromise and patience.
But even with all these challenges, it’s important not to forget about romance. As time goes on, the initial excitement might fade. You might find yourself focusing more on everyday worries than on each other. That’s normal, but it’s important to make time for romance too.
Romance doesn’t have to be grand gestures. It’s the little things that matter, like holding hands or cuddling on the couch. These small moments keep the spark alive.
Understanding each other’s needs is crucial too. Life is full of ups and downs, and you need to be there for each other through it all. When you have disagreements, listen to each other and find a solution together.
It’s also important to make each other happy. In the midst of busy lives, it’s easy to forget what really matters. But love is what makes life meaningful, so cherish it.
In the end, being in a long-term relationship is about facing life together. It’s about growing and learning as a couple. Yes, there will be tough times, but love will see you through.
In conclusion, long-term relationships are a journey. They’re about more than just love; they’re about building a life together. With communication, understanding, and a little romance, you can make your relationship stronger than ever. So cherish each other and the love you share—it’s worth it.
Feeling sad, stressed, or down occasionally is normal, but prolonged periods of low mood may indicate depression. Depression symptoms include persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities, feelings of guilt or worthlessness, changes in appetite or weight, fatigue, sleep disturbances, and physical pain. If these symptoms persist for more than a week or two, it’s essential to seek mental health support.
Depression isn’t a sign of weakness or negativity; it’s a serious mental health issue that requires medical attention. It can affect various aspects of life, including careers, relationships, and daily functioning. If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or behaviors, immediate intervention is crucial.
While the exact cause of depression isn’t fully understood, factors such as altered brain chemistry, trauma, chronic illness, and hormonal changes may contribute to its development. Diagnosing depression typically involves a psychological evaluation to assess symptoms and their severity.
Treatment options for depression include therapy, medication, and social support networks. Preksha meditation, specifically the Perceptive Breathing Technique has shown promise in alleviating severe depression. This non-drug approach can complement traditional treatments and help individuals manage their symptoms effectively.
At our clinic, we offer comprehensive mental health support programs tailored to individuals struggling with depression. Our services include regular cognitive behaviour sessions, perceptive meditation sessions, counseling, and mental exercises aimed at promoting emotional well-being and recovery. If you’re ready to take the first step towards healing, contact us to learn more about our programs and how we can support you on your journey to better mental health.
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