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Premarital Counseling – Stress and Strains in Preparing for a New Relationship

Posted in The psychology counselling services available, tagged , , , , , on April 24, 2024| Leave a Comment »

Entering into a new relationship is akin to embarking on a journey filled with excitement, anticipation, and perhaps a touch of apprehension.

As individuals, we navigate through life’s roles and responsibilities, often enveloped within our self-imposed privacy within families and societal constructs. Preparing for a new relationship involves acknowledging and addressing the stress and strains inherent in our individual lives while nurturing the foundation for a fulfilling partnership.

Marital counseling emerges as a pivotal tool in this journey, offering couples a roadmap to create a relationship that harmonizes the need for personal space with the desire for intimacy. It serves as a guiding light, illuminating the path towards a bond characterized by mutual respect, understanding, and unwavering support. Through counseling, couples are encouraged to envision their relationship as two fully bloomed flowers, each exuding its unique fragrance of love and affection while coexisting in harmonious unity.

The journey of preparing for a new relationship is underpinned by a dedication to marriage—an unwavering commitment that serves as the bedrock upon which enduring love is built. This dedication transcends mere words, encompassing a myriad of qualities essential for a thriving partnership.

Love forms the cornerstone of this dedication, infusing every interaction with warmth and compassion. Humor acts as a balm, easing tensions and fostering a sense of joy in shared moments. Mutual growth becomes the guiding principle, as couples embark on a journey of self-discovery and evolution, hand in hand.

Resilience emerges as a defining trait, as partners navigate life’s inevitable challenges with unwavering strength and fortitude. Shared goals provide a common purpose, binding couples together in pursuit of a shared vision for their future. Respect for each other’s beliefs—be they religious, cultural, or personal—becomes non-negotiable, fostering an environment of acceptance and inclusion.

Communication serves as the lifeblood of the relationship, nurturing understanding and empathy between partners. Friendship blossoms alongside love, anchoring the relationship in a foundation of trust and camaraderie. And woven through it all is a profound yearning for companionship—a deep-seated desire to walk hand in hand through life’s journey, sharing its joys and sorrows as one.

In the intricate tapestry of marriage, each of these qualities acts as a thread, weaving together to form a beautiful garden of love and companionship. Yet, just as a single missing petal can cause a flower to wilt, the absence of any of these qualities can imperil the sanctity of the marital bond. It is here that the importance of pre-marital counseling becomes abundantly clear.

Pre-marital counseling serves as a nurturing force, providing couples with the tools and insights necessary to weather life’s storms and emerge stronger together. It offers a safe space for couples to explore their hopes, fears, and aspirations, laying the groundwork for open and honest communication. Through guided exercises and discussions, couples are empowered to confront potential areas of conflict, fostering a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and desires.

Moreover, pre-marital counseling equips couples with invaluable coping strategies, enabling them to navigate the inevitable challenges that arise in any relationship. Whether it be financial stresses, family dynamics, or personal differences, couples emerge from counseling with a newfound sense of resilience and unity.

Crucially, pre-marital counseling addresses the root causes of marital discord, thereby serving as a potent deterrent against the rising tide of divorce. By fostering a culture of introspection and communication, counseling empowers couples to confront issues head-on, rather than allowing them to fester and grow unchecked. In doing so, it not only strengthens individual relationships but also contributes to the collective fabric of society, reducing the prevalence of fractured families and broken homes.

In conclusion, the journey of preparing for a new relationship is one fraught with both excitement and uncertainty. Yet, through the guidance of pre-marital counseling, couples can navigate this journey with confidence and grace. By cultivating a relationship grounded in love, respect, and understanding, couples lay the foundation for a partnership that will endure the test of time.

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Why Couples Get Stressed and Look at Partners as -“Not So OK Spouse”- Hope It’s Not Happening to Your Family

Posted in daily writings and musings of the psychologist, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , on April 12, 2024| Leave a Comment »

Rhea (name changed )had been wondering as to where had she gone wrong in her decision to make her marriage a dream marriage that she had always dreamt about. She had wanted her marriage to be a mean to her happiness and love. She wanted to share a home full of marital bliss with her life partner Sam . Those two had always been looked upon as if they were a kind of made for each other couple during the six month long courtship. It wasn’t long since everyone at their reception ceremony had praised their complementing and completing each other .

Yet something went wrong immediately after they had returned from their honeymoon.She to utter dismay felt that she was not able to cope up with the demands being made on her by the family members of Sam. .She was feeling bad that she had not come upto the expectations of her mother in law. Her husband would often find her guilty of having upset his mother.Her mother in law would insult her ,in the kitchen and would not allow her to cook anything. if she had really been trained to be a housewife only things would have been different.She has been a professional programmer in an I.T. company and her husband who worked alongside her in the same organisation knew it very well.Then why this sudden demand of attending to household work .She would get into the bed room to discuss the post wedding trauma with her husband who often refused to discuss anything about his mother’s stand.

Jatin’s (name changed ) wife had left home to be with her mother for a week, has not returned now for many months as she decided to get out of the marriage because Jatin has not been taking her out to their regular pub joint after marriage as had been promised by him before they got married.

Ruby and Rohit (names changed ) had a long history of having been in love with each other from their childhood days and their courtship continued for more than twenty years before they decided to tie their knot. But after marriage everything turned tipsy turvy when Ruby found out that Rohit had been two timings even when he was into relationship with her .

Some of these young people may appear to be living next to us or people could be within us . But young marriages are not the only ones having jolts and jitters . Couples in their fifties and sixties years of age too have been having tough time in current situations as they either moot separation or move forward to a divorce.

Said Sudhir (name changed) “Our journey towards a blessed relationship of matrimony happened 19 years ago. We have two sons (17 and 12 ) . Recently I saw my wife talking to someone on social media Thereafter it has been a journey full of hardships and everyday fights .My marriage and its subsequent outcome had far-reaching effects on both my emotional and physical heath, as well as my self esteem and personal identity .I have decided to end this tortuous relationship.

Marriage is changing and evolving .it’s meaning in all strata of society ,be it young ,old , middle aged couples ,any income group is not the same any more .

We have had and we continue getting couples from any age group ,financial and milieu as you have read in some of the cases mentioned above .

A life long commitment to matrimonial relationship is a turning into a burden for some of the young couples .And some of the elderly couples feel it has been a difficult journey . They want to bring it to an end .But the decision to separate , from your partner with whom you have been planning to turn your dreams into a reality and walk hand in hand with each other ;to separate marital life to finally making the decision to proceed with a divorce and to coping with the stress and heartache is not so easy either ..

This is where we at Family Therapy India can help couples like above and many others who are facing turmoils into their relationships .

Our Family Therapy ,Relationship and marriage counselling sessions can help you change your life for the better.

You can learn how your personal choices are affecting your life, and that your happiness is up to you. You can’t always change your circumstances, or the situations you face in your life, but you can change how you act or react to those circumstances. It is up to you to decide what your future will look like, and to create your own happily ever after. Our family therapy ,Relationship and marriage counselling can help you find yourself, and let go of the feelings of anger, frustration, betrayal, and despair that are holding you back. It can teach you how to set goals and move toward a positive and successful future within your marriage, You can learn how to make permanent, lasting changes that benefit both of you and of course other members of your family.

Our Emotions Focussed Therapy and Counselling can help you regulate your emotions and learn the process of the best decision making on personal, financial, and practical aspects of your life that will develop better understanding for you and your partner to reaffirm your relationship.

We offer Family therapy , relationship and marriage Counselling sessions for families ,men, women and couples who are living with children, recently married, thinking of separation, getting a divorce, or experiencing relationship difficulties .We strongly believe in helping all those couples who are facing difficulties within their relationship at any age to understand each other’s mental and emotional state . We help them to set their communication better and overcome obstacles that are preventing them from achieving the happiness they deserve.

Get in touch with us today or write to us mansikpramarsh@gmail.com

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Nurturing Love in Long-Term Relationships: Balancing Romance with Reality

Posted in daily writings and musings of the psychologist, tagged , , , , , , , on March 24, 2024| Leave a Comment »

Being in love is wonderful, isn’t it? Dating, feeling those butterflies, and longing to see each other again—it’s a special time. But as relationships grow, they change. Long-term relationships are about more than just love; they’re about managing life together.

When you’re in a long-term relationship, you’re not just looking out for yourself anymore. You’re building a life with someone else. That means dealing with all sorts of things: money, jobs, family, and more. It’s not always easy.

Communication is key. It’s how you talk about your problems and work through them together. Every argument is a chance to make your relationship stronger. Instead of fighting, try to understand each other’s point of view. That’s how you grow as a couple.

One of the hardest parts is merging your lives. You’re bringing together two different worlds, with different families, careers, and goals. It takes compromise and patience.

But even with all these challenges, it’s important not to forget about romance. As time goes on, the initial excitement might fade. You might find yourself focusing more on everyday worries than on each other. That’s normal, but it’s important to make time for romance too.

Romance doesn’t have to be grand gestures. It’s the little things that matter, like holding hands or cuddling on the couch. These small moments keep the spark alive.

Understanding each other’s needs is crucial too. Life is full of ups and downs, and you need to be there for each other through it all. When you have disagreements, listen to each other and find a solution together.

It’s also important to make each other happy. In the midst of busy lives, it’s easy to forget what really matters. But love is what makes life meaningful, so cherish it.

In the end, being in a long-term relationship is about facing life together. It’s about growing and learning as a couple. Yes, there will be tough times, but love will see you through.

In conclusion, long-term relationships are a journey. They’re about more than just love; they’re about building a life together. With communication, understanding, and a little romance, you can make your relationship stronger than ever. So cherish each other and the love you share—it’s worth it.

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