Have you of late been feeling deep in the woods ? Do you feel the world is out to get you? Do you really feel the next johnny is better than you? Do you want to just lie down and not look at the world in the day light, with the curtains drawn and the lights off all the times?The day to you just seems to drag on… the night becomes all the more difficult and sleep seems to have eluded you for many days . Do you look at the world a real queer place with all of the folks giving you advise to go and do something about it ?
Do you :
- beat Yourselves up over silly mistakes,
- feel always sick and tired on account of not sleeping well,
- constantly grapple with unwanted thoughts running through your minds all the time
- feel tormented with traumas and pains of life’s doings and undoings .
The shrink might say you have a depression and a mood disorder . The others would simply be calling it an inability to face the stresses of the world and may associate to anxiety attack. some could have compassion for you or some could just call you a lazy buff. But do you really feel all that advise is necessary when all you are doing is being comfortable in the discomfort of the inertia and the negation of the self.
But is that not a fact that you Do want to feel truly good, only if some one could help you overcome this inertia of depression ? The visits to the psychiatrists do not seem to have helped much, as he does nothing but prescribes a different medicine every time you go to him.
Here is a simple remedy that can help you overcome the negativity that seems to have entered your mind and life.
You make an attempt to Accept yourself and feel a profound sense of warmth and self-importance. No I am not advising you to become a megalomaniac but asking you to feel the powers that be within you to resurrect your life .You have some magnetic power that makes you unique , that makes you , “ME”. Identify this “ME” and make all efforts to become “ME”.
We would often look at others and not only compare ourselves with others but also be always be busy in the process of becoming others. but would becoming others make us happy or satisfied ? no not at all . The more we look outward towards others ,the more we get dissociated with the self the real “ME”, that always wants to excel and be recognised. But the rat race of becoming others, the eagerness of doing like the others do pushes this “ME”, to the unknown depths of ignominy.
We regularly conduct Preksha Meditation classes at Alka Mansik Pramarsh Foundation and our experiences reveals that the meditation of self-acceptance makes people gain positivity and happy state of mind which can not be compared to others because in this there is no , “other”. The learning of the self can definitely be compared to the learning of the new things and being part of something bigger, some sacred and celestial happiness and satisfaction.
If you want to feel this , self-acceptance is the habit you need to inculcate gradually in your mind.
Start by writing all the positive things about you on a paper , even if you feel there is nothing positive that you can write about you just write the following statement:
I am a powerful person I have the power of mind .
Continue writing a full page ,then meditate on this, you will gradually start feeling good ?
YOU MUST Accept Yourself in the positive fashion and that will help you overcome barriers to self-acceptance .Come and learn with us the daily self acceptance practices that result into psychological and emotional healing.
Ramneek kapoor,Clinical Psychologist and family Therapist,Science of living ,Preksha Meditation expert.
Alka Mansik Pramarsh Foundation Clinical Psychologists-Family therapists Indore 0731-4263087,9179383554 
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A few sessions with the couple revealed that they both in spite of their long dating history had failed to emotionally connect with each other so far. Seema had wanted to make the emotional connection but had not understood how to proceed with it. She had always wanted to make Jatin part of her inner life. Each time she tried she sounded more pathetic and distressed and felt completely remorseful when she did not get the desired attention and response from Jatin.
It has been observed by us that one partner in a marriage is depressed , the cause would always be a marital situation between the two spouses. The solution to such a situation has to be found within the marriage situation only.There can be no solution by putting the onus to only one of the members to the marriage, as the reason is not individual but a common factor is responsible for whatever is happening to the spouses.
-Ramneek Kapoor – Family Therapist, Psychologist Counselor and Science of Living Expert.
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