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Some of the common potential premarital problems and their suggested solutions:

June 18, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

An open communication definitely will help the couple resolve their differences. They can do so by sitting in an amicable atmosphere of love and regard for each other’s opinion and   view point.   Many issues can be settled in life by having a long talk.  Some other issues can be settled and resolved by professional counseling. It may so happen some times that the couple simply isn’t compatible cerebrally and physically to be together.  But that does not mean that the strangers cannot become the best of friends. Efforts made in the right direction can bring the poles apart personalities to develop tolerance and acceptance of each other which may eventually ignite the sparks of love and affection too.

A strained relationship can be developed due to many smaller yet important issues which could have been better resolved as soon as these differences had cropped up.  The differences could also have been arisen as a  result of much deeper  issues. Certain problems seem to be common among many couples, so those areas are good places to start when trying to work on a lifelong marital relationship. A good beginning can be made  by the young couple by   seeking premarital counseling to help them with their relationship support material and tips that can help the couple  build a solid foundation for a happy married life.

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Relationship Advice – Happy Vs. Unhappy Couples – Tips for Building a life lasting Relationship between Two People who are in Love

June 17, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

It is wonderful feeling to be in love and date each other. While dating prior to the commitment made to each other for a long term relationship, the couples meet for awhile and then pine for each other till they meet at the next date. Everything is seen by them from behind the rosy shades of love and affection for each other. The emotions of possessiveness and yearning do not bring in the mundane communication of a daily grinds of life. But being in a long-term relationship isn’t merely pining for the lover’s physical intimacy alone. Being in long term relationships will involve managing and taking care of many other lives in addition to the lives of the lovers. And it is not an easy task. . Both people need to accommodate themselves to new family atmosphere and new relationships in their lives. Gradually they will have to raise their own families to make their family a complete unit. They need to then communicate over many other issues in addition to the romance and love in marriage. Their issues that gain priority over love may pertain to jobs and careers, money and household expense, household work and taking care of the babies, social, cultural and religious affairs, parenting and in many cases taking care of the aged and old in the families. As a couple begins their journey into the long-term relationship of wedded bliss, their love for each other many a times may take a back seat and the love gets reduced to a few stolen kisses and quickies here and there. The couple forgets about nurturing and keeping the flame of love and desire for each other alive. Soon the infatuation of physical hunger wears off and then the focus shifts from the affection to the problems. The stark realities of need for more money, career priorities and of culture, of religion, and of family may cause concerns and small squabbles. Before these squabbles get blown into major issues and a beautiful relationship begins to disintegrate. The couple needs to understand that every relationship is important in life and more so with the one with whom you have to spend your life time. Needless to say, that every difference and misunderstanding should be treated as worth working for and saving, once the infatuation begins to fade. Communication is the only tool and doorway to establish a better understanding; essentially the couple, need to take    up all those problems that are causing strangled relationship .

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What is the right time for a Couple to Seek Pre-Marital Counseling?

June 14, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

 Counseling should obviously be sought when the individual have selected a companion and the decisions to get married by both the individuals have been finalized, so that the benefits can be accrued by both the partners in their future married life.   The psychologists recommend seeking counseling:

  • When both the partners are very young and have never been married. ( of course both have   to take decision to get  married only at the legal marriage age allowed by the law of the land )
  • When the commitment for marriage cannot be taken with an open mind and the decision leads to fears and phobia in the individual’s mind.
  •  When the decision involves many issues related to   religion, culture, family ,  economic, social background, income, , parenting, household responsibility, work, job, career ambitions,  physical intimacy, sex, companionship, privacy, loss of independence etc.
  • When any of the near relatives, parents, siblings, have been through a bad marriage in the family.
  • When either or both partners have had a failed marriage before and have been through a trauma of legal divorce.
  • When the family pressures conflict with personal reasons and attitude.
  •   When the individual have been a victim of childhood abuse or domestic violence.
  • When individual has other reasons that could create conflicting situations with either of the spouse or other near and dear ones.

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What is Pre-Marital Counseling?

June 13, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

Pre-marital counseling is advice and counseling imparted to a young couple (man and woman) who are about to get married   shortly. The counseling usually is imparted to the   couple together. But many a times individual counseling is also undertaken to  assist the individuals in removing many of  the myths, fears, misconceptions which could lead to conflicts in marriage later, if not handled at the individual level.  The premarital counseling   is facilitated by a qualified psychologist who has had the experience of dealing with marital and family problems for a long time.   The premarital counseling renders

  1. Help to the couples to identify those areas of conflict that could become problematic later on in their lives.
  1. Assist couples in developing understanding for the changed roles in their lives and the expected mutual adjustments expected from now on in their lives.
  2. Equip them with the skills to enjoy and pilot their way through a meaningful marriage successfully.
  3. To develop as responsible fun loving companions for each other and to the other family members.
  • A professional counselor   addressing the pre-marital counseling to the couple will make use of many kinds of assessment criterion to help the couple understand the rosy as well as bleak areas which could either make the marriage enjoyable journey or fill it up with   potential complications.  The psychologist will address some of the common areas given below at the time of premarital counseling:
  •  Male –female Sexuality and its implications /expectations in a married life.
  • Interests and Activities of a married couple and as individual entities
  • Role Expectations for both the partners
  • Personal Adjustment /accommodation for a successful marriage.
  • Interpersonal Communication and interfamily adjustments
  •  Culture,  Morality, Ethics,  Religion And Philosophy
  • Marriage Expectations and the changed life thereafter
  • Family Issues and mutual responsibility
  •  Finances- income- individual-shared
  • Personal growth, family growth, Children ,and Parenting

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Premarital counseling – Stress and strains in Preparing for a new relationship

June 11, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

Stress and strains in Preparing for a new relationship:  we as individual live in a predetermined, self imposed self selected privacy as we go about our daily living in families and in various roles of society. Yet within this privacy we do have the necessary social interaction and relationships.   Marital counseling can help the couple develop a relationship that has the inbuilt system of allowing space to both the spouses and yet bring about the required intimacy for enjoying the new relationship.  The couple should evolve like two full grown flowers that spread a common fragrance of love and affection and yet appear beautiful in their own individual identity.    Every couple knows that their Dedication to Marriage will build stronger relationships.  Their dedication towards each other will bring about a strong love for each other, a sense of humor, willingness to grow up together, necessary strength for working towards a common cause, shared and tolerance for each other’s religious and cultural beliefs, and commonality of life’s goals.  This dedication will be built upon love, affection, empathy, allowance, understanding, commitment, communication, friendship and of course yearning for companionship.  All these adjectives together make a beautiful garden known as the marriage. One such missing petal can cause the whole flowers fall apart hence the mental strength gained through pre marital counseling will provide the necessary feed, , sunlight   and the nurturing to the romancing couple and of course the bring down the ever rising divorce rate the world over.

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Premarital counseling – What should the couple ask a psychologist counselor?

June 10, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

What should the couple ask a psychologist counselor? : The question that a young couple may have in mind is as to:

  1. What should they ask the counselor separately as individuals and  as  a couple together who have decided to tie the nuptials
  2. Does every couple need such counseling?
  3. But we have known each other for so long as lovers / friend’s .why do we need counseling now?
  4. Will the counseling be done in privacy or  will there be more couples will be involved in the process?
  5. Will the counseling involve my /ours parents too?
  6. How will the counseling help me/ us have a smooth/ rocking marital relationships?
  7. How many sessions will be necessary?

 

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Hello world! we help you cope up with your stresses, fears, laughter, sadness, gaiety, complexes, and problems

June 9, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

 

Alka Mansik Pramarsh  Foundation, Indore is a  registered  premier nongovernmental organization of Central India. The society is committed to provide access to counseling on mental,  psychological,behavioral, psychotic, neurotic, social and spiritual health and professional guidance to all sections of society . We are an organization of psychologists, family therapists counseling experts, social welfare and management experts. We find that the area of mental health and well being   need a revolutionary yet sympathetic approach to providing quality cerebral psychological guiding and counseling services to people from all walks and strata of our society. The current stress and strain on working couples and their children on account of   single family units,  competitive living, commercialization of   family values and the race to get as much material wealth within the short time has left its deep scars on people’s mind and hearts, resulting into depressions and weakened   personalities. The society has to bear its impact in the shape of lesser work force, non committed people, disintegrating families, disheartened youth and   adolescents.

The Alka Mansik Pramarsh  Foundation,   Indore will provide succor to all such affected people by making psychological guidance and support available at very reasonable and affordable nominal cost. Our practices will be based on   international psychological ethics and value standards.

We offer a wide range of counseling services for all these and many other different categories of people on varied issues. Alka Mansik Pramarsh  Foundation, Indore makes available many  types of highly classified psychological guiding, advising and counseling services.

  • Counselling for depression , anxiety and stress
  • Counselling for all kinds of  behavioral ,  psychological ,personality and emotional issues
  •  Counselling for all kinds of psychotic, neurotic and mental issues
  •  Family Counseling  and family  therapy services
  • Counseling for Emotional Problems related to Pre & Post marital issues
  • Marriage Counseling Service
  • Counseling for Family Problems
  • Corporate Counseling and psychological services
  • Counseling for adults and  Adolescents issues
  • Counseling for special children services
  • School Students Counseling Services
  • Counseling for Senior Citizens of society

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Premarital Counseling – a future Relationship Therapy

June 9, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

Pre-Marital Counseling:  the decision to get married is a very happy moment but at the same time individuals (irrespective of the fact whether they are male or female) get very apprehensive of sharing their freedom, space, individuality and even responsibility of handing over the managing of their lives to someone else.  Falling in love and getting engaged to someone you have fancied as life partner is very fascinating.  The post engagement is a thrilling and a very delightful time. It is a time when dating, dreaming and fanciful planning takes place between the couples. Most of the couples come close and become emotionally fond of   each other. The physicality of intimacy, close proximity and the idea of having fallen in love are very intoxicating.  This period is the time to know each other and thereby cementing ties for a happy life long relationship. The couples in addition to falling in love should preferably take out some time together to get a positive premarital counseling.  Such a premarital counseling will help the couples uncover and resolve many issues that could become too late after having been married.

Let us see what the premarital counseling means to newly engaged couple:

Premarital Counseling – future a Relationship Therapy: As blissful couples go through their engagement, looking at their    own ring and adoring the engagement. They get busy preparing their wedding trousseau   , finalizing   wedding plans.  There are enough people to take care of the details of the accessories.  The couple should take out some time for the most important thing of all – their relationship at present and their relationship that is being built up through the sacred marriage.  In earlier times of joint family systems, an older sister, sister in law, other seniors in the family like a grandmother, or an older aunt, some close family friend took over the counseling of the bride to be or the groom to be.  But the independent single family system has deprived such a privilege to modern couples.     Social thinkers and family psychologists recommend that each couple who has opted to get married and tie the knot should go through at least one session of premarital counseling. Couples may have specific needs in premarital counseling and therapy, such as following particular religious faith and culture, maintaining traditions of their family issues and the questions of sharing their personal world, privacy or possessions with another person and likewise, so  there could be many questions lurking about the future life.

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Counseling for Emotional Problems related to Pre & Post marital affairs

April 12, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

Alka Mansik Pramarsh  Foundation,   Indore offers specially designed counseling and advice on all emotional problems arising out of Pre & Post marital affairs. Understanding the seriousness and confidentiality of the issues, we honor the trust and confidence of   our clients and therefore, every conversation and discussion between the client and our Counselor(s) is a guarded secret.  Mansik Pramarsh Indore will not divulge any information regarding the clients and their problems without their written and legal permission under any circumstances unless it is legally binding to do so, in a court of law.

One can look for a trusted friend in the counselors from Mansik Pramarsh Indore as we maintain strict confidentiality regarding our clients and consider their right of privacy and secrecy absolutely sacrosanct.

Some of the behavioral problems related to pre/post marital affairs are:-

  • Building up of  stress
  • mood  swings and depression
  • Loss of self  esteem
  • Building up of  anxiety
  • Building up of  grief and loss of faith and  trust
  • Unable to adjust in the changed  environment/circumstances
  • Stress and strain in  relationship with others
  • Unable to deal  with emotional trauma
  • Coping with family and childhood issues
  • substance abuse
  • Communication problems
  • Premarital concerns
  • Anger and conflict
  • Ego related issues
  • Gender issues
  • Adoption related issues
  • Unable to cope with Chronic illness
  • Sadness, depression, anger, guilt, despondency or anxiety
  • Lack of  ability to carry out routine activities;
  • Disturbed sleep and insomnia
  • Emotional stress
  • Physical distress such as pain, fatigue, shortness of breath, chest pain and muscular tension
  • Disharmony with other  family members;
  • Remorse over past behavior
  • Distress over other losses
  • Thought of hurting yourself or others
  • Work and Career concerns
  • Eating disorders;
  • Development issues
  • Religious and spiritual issues
  • Drug and alcohol dependence and abuse
  • Post traumatic stress disorder
  • Feeling of  loneliness
  • Schedule of Counseling For Pre /Post Marital  Affairs Counseling Service Day 1. – Initial Interview: an exploratory session with our expert counselor for exchange and understanding of basic information that would help us to understand the aspirations, interests, strengths and weakness of the counselee.
    • Day II   Testing
    • Personality profile
    • Real interest areas with details of each Psychological test.
      • Day III Commencement of the Counseling Sessions

Procedure: the counselee has to seek   prior appointment with the counselor.

  • Fee schedule for   pre/post marital counseling services   :Psychological assessment fee    Rs.1000/
    • Complete analytical report fee   Rs. 1000/
    • Counseling per session fee Rs. 2000/
  • Confidentiality: our counselors / staff will operate with complete trust and confidentiality. The details of all results/ findings are not divulged to any other person except to the counselee.
  • Effect of Counseling: Our clients can expect to benefit from counseling, making positive changes in their life, relationships, communication, thoughts, feelings, and/or behaviors. Very few of the clients however, may not find counseling profitable immediately as the behavioral aspects will change with passage of time only. Some of the counselees may develop a negative counseling experience too. Even the most successful counseling and therapy can, at times become uncomfortable, as we deal with emotionally difficult issues. Relationship can become positive/ negative with others depending on the situation. Counselees are advised to clarify their questions or concerns about their rights and responsibilities, the possible effects of counseling, or services being offered with the counselor/   staff member of the Counseling Services.

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Marriage Counseling Service

April 12, 2011 by Ramneek Kapoor

Alka Mansik Pramarsh  Foundation,   Indore offers specially designed counseling and advise   services to its clients on marriage and issues arising out of marital relationships.  Our marriage counseling service program helps our clients deal with issues such as  relationship problems, illness, infidelity, excessive anger, substance abuse, abnormal physical or mental conditions,  cultural issues , financial issues, unemployment, blended families communication problems, conflicts about child rearing, changing roles such as retirement, and so on. The efforts are to remove or reduce distress in marriage relationships. Strained marital relationship, if overlooked, can worsen.  The stresses of failed marital relationships eventually lead to physical or psychological problems such as depression. Mansik Pramarsh Indore offers counseling to individual spouse or to the couple jointly. Our counseling sessions can prove of immense help in resolving issues and heal wounds.Strained marital relationship can also create problems on the job and affect family members and children, or even friends, as people feel compelled to take sides. Therefore it is only advisable that partners in marriage share their agonies and anxieties with our expert psychologists and seek their assistance and counseling.

Our experts offer solution to following psychological challenges:

  • Women’s issues
  • Parenting issues
    • Body image issues
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Domestic Violence Survival
    • Issues with food and eating habits
    • Stress
    • Grief and loss
    • Relationship difficulties
    • Self mediation
    • Low Self esteem
    • High Self esteem
    • Coping with pet loss
    • Health-Related issues
    • Inferiority complex
    • Overestimation
    • Underestimation
    • High Ego Problem; etc. etc.
      • Men’s issues
  • Work issues
  • Depression
  • Relationship Difficulties
  • Grief and Loss Issues
  • Anxiety
  • Parenting Issues
  • Health related Issues
  • High Ego Problem
  • High Self esteem
  • Inferiority complex
  • Overestimation
  • Underestimation
  • High Ego Problem; etc.

Marriage counseling encourages couples or partners for joint therapy sessions. The counselor helps couples pinpoint and understand the roots of their conflicts and tries to resolve them .The couple is advised to analyze both the negative and positive aspects of their relationship. The Marriage Counselor remains totally impartial and endeavors to teach them the skills to solidify relationship.  The exercise involves open communication, an effort to solve problems together and discussing differences rationally. The counseling sessions may however not be very easy always. Discussing your problems with the counselor may again pose certain uneasiness as you and your partner will be carrying with you the unpleasantness of the past and the suppressed anger, your agonies and sorrows. But you will certainly very soon realize that coming for counseling was undoubtedly a right step in the right direction.   In certain cases involving mental illness or substance abuse, the counselor may associate himself with the other health care professionals who may be working on your case to be able to provide best of counseling. As you go through the marriage counseling, you will be able to note and experience the rising level of your capacity to cope up with the differences and healthier relationship.

  • Schedule of Counseling For Marital Counseling Service Day 1. – Initial Interview: an exploratory session with our expert counselor for exchange and understanding of basic information that would help us to understand the aspirations, interests, strengths and weakness of the counselee.
    • Day II   Testing
    • Personality profile
    • Real interest areas with details of each Psychological test.
      • Day III Commencement of the Counseling Sessions

Procedure: the counselee has to seek   prior appointment with the counselor.

  • Fee schedule for  marital counseling services   :Psychological assessment fee    Rs. 1000/
    • Complete analytical report fee   Rs.1000/
    • Counseling per session fee  Rs.2000/
    • Couple counseling per session fee Rs. 2000/
  • Confidentiality: our counselors / staff will operate with complete trust and confidentiality. The details of all results/ findings are not divulged to any other person except to the counselee.
  • Effect of Counseling: Our clients can expect to benefit from counseling, making positive changes in their life, relationships, communication, thoughts, feelings, and/or behaviors. Very few of the clients however, may not find counseling profitable immediately as the behavioral aspects will change with passage of time only. Some of the counselees may develop a negative counseling experience too. Even the most successful counseling and therapy can, at times become uncomfortable, as we deal with emotionally difficult issues. Relationship can become positive/ negative with others depending on the situation. Counselees are advised to clarify their questions or concerns about their rights and responsibilities, the possible effects of counseling, or services being offered with the counselor/   staff member of the Counseling Services.

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