Tanisha (name changed) has been married for seven years into her second marriage. Her earlier marriage had not last long enough and before she could realize that she has been married, she was out of the wedlock.Her husband of her first marriage , could not take to her low mood and low self esteem.He called it quits in one years time. She had met Sunit (name changed ) through the family social circle. Sunit an employed engineer , despite his having divorced her wife from his first marriage had appealed to the family so much that without any kind of verification etc., Tanisha had been married off to him . It was all rosy picture for the first few months of hr new marital life . She had moved with him to another city where he was posted on his job. Soon she had been blessed with a baby. Things started to go wrong the moment she had announced her being pregnant to her husband. Sunit found it difficult to continue in the job he was holding. He quit the job .They moved back to his parents home.They have both become dependent on his parents meager income of rentals and pension. Tanisha later learnt that Sunit’s earlier divorce had happened on account of his inability to continue into any job for longer period.
Sunit has since been out of job for seven years. Each day begins with a fight for the financial needs which have been by now been mounting to unmanageable levels. their daughter is five years old. Her school expenses too have been rising up every year and will go up further ( her current school expense is being managed by Tanisha’s parents form their pension funds) .
It is obvious Tanisha has to bear the brunt of her husband being unemployed . She is mistreated by her mother in law too. Tanisha has been moving forth between her parents house and her in laws like a bouncing ball very frequently. The last time she had been away for over six months ( this being longest period of her leaving her husband ). Yet she comes back every time .Every month it happens either she is told to leave her in laws’ place by her mother in law or her husband or she would leave in a huff after the fight vowing never to come back . Her life goes on in spite of the mental, physical , emotional , economic and social abuse.Neither her parents want her to leave her husband nor is she confident enough to lead her life independently.
The relationship that Tanisha has been undergoing is a regular feature in her life, as she has been treated very badly in childhood by some of the family members, and again by some of the boy friends in her teens when she was into college.
Relationship abuse is the most common form of psychological, abuse people indulge into to hold a sway over others or allow others to hold a sway over them. It is a kind of psychological exploitation by the perpetrator . At the same time it is also an unnecessary comfort area the victim gets into refusing to come out of it.
It has been observed that Women ( irrespective of the fact that they are married or not ) stay in abusive relationships due to a combination of low self-esteem, still low self confidence ,lack of family support ,poor other alternatives . This is also compounded by the time and efforts they have invested to rectify the current relationship, find the research recently conducted . The results indicate that 88% of women continue their relationships with their abusive partner over longer periods. The women just do not have the courage to move out of the relationships and leave their partners. even after having been abused over longer relationships , many women ( many men too ) with lack of self esteem and lack of self confidence find it hard to leave their partner. They just prefer enduring the abusive relationship having lost all their trust in their own capabilities.
The study points out that only a small percentage of 12% of the women in this study who were abused — psychologically or physically — left their partner . This happens when such women feel they are not worthy of bringing about any change in their status .
The low self-esteem in women can be the result of having undergone childhood abuse — which can instill fear of the unknown change .Doubts of self empowerment can raise their tolerance for abuse, and neglect . Such women have reported at least one incident of abuse in their early life , whether physical or psychological.Psychological abuse included things like, “touching inappropriately by a friend or a relative”, “ being bullied in their childhood”, ” being called fat or ugly”, ” having been ignored by parents, guardians, or“ being hurled insults by teachers , tutors, classmates or companions “.Most of the abuse the study indicates are psychological.
The research points out that : “…women experiencing high levels of psychological distress may not feel efficacious in their ability .The results showed that 88% of women were still with an abusive partner over longer periods unwilling to leave their partners.”Childhood abuse has been an important contributory factor,“…women who were abused in childhood are more satisfied with their current relationships than women who are not abused in childhood.
“It is possible that women with childhood abuse histories are more satisfied in their relationships than women without childhood abuse histories because they have more tolerance for mistreatment based on early life experiences and resulting interpersonal experiences ”, the researcher points out ,“…the more psychological abuse women are exposed to, the more energy and effort they put forth to resolve the conflict, thus leading to increases in perceived investment.”
“The more time , effort, emotions and experiences women invest in their relationship, the more likely they are to stay in such abusive relationships” , and hence their could be many Tanisha’s enduring abusive relationships.
-Ramneek Kapoor – Family Therapist , Psychologist Counselor and Science of Living Expert .
When we achieve balance of emotions in our day to day life , we get a sense of self mastery and well being. But instead of managing balance of emotions we tend to get swayed by the event. We brood over the event and the person that has stirred the emotional upheaval and bring about the imbalanced attitude of negative emotions.
Emotional balance on the other hand would mean giving ourselves the necessary preference, importance, care , nurturing and intelligence to conduct our life in such a way that it should offset the negative tilt and bring about the positive uplift within our mind and heart .We are designed to live in a healthy combination of emotional balance and wisdom. But we get carried away as we mentioned above.
Emotional balance would not mean controlling emotions . We can not mute our emotion by the use of any remote device , nor can we make them very loud. Life in both cases will become very bland and uninteresting . What if we keep on saying all the time that, ” I am very sad today”, or we just brood over the event and present a sad face. Similarly living in one emotion always is not desirable. Can we always be happy, buoyant and celebratory all the times ? if not then why should we remain sad, anxious , melancholic and stressed all the times. Such downs and ups of the moods and emotions add spice and entertainment to our life.The Downs present us with the challenges and Up would always make us happy. But the Ups too present to us the challenge for not going overboard.
We do not need to avoid the unpleasant feelings, relations, events or places . On the contrary feel empowered to balance the negative with the positive of life, by looking at and perceiving all aspects of life. Most of the times we get overpowered by the negative emotion and get stuck with that. Such negatives take over our life in the morning itself and we continue with it through most of the day.
Balancing emotions must remain a consistent , constant, factor of our life. We must keep balancing with different moods in the day. All free time available should be utilized for balancing. Think of the good times that you have had, the good things of life , the good events that you had participated in , to offbeat the bad happenings. Learn to soothe your mood by treating your self nicely, differently and importantly .Give importance to yourself .Have a say in how long you will stay in bad mood. Thereafter shift your focus , hit upon the new entertainment, the new treatment of self. The intensity of the bad emotion and the bad mood will come down.
Chronic pain, chronic bad mood , chronic losing yourself into bad emotions should be broken by intermittent good mood. Bad mood can be balanced by small wins of good mood . Before we get into clinical or manic depression , balancing emotions with small good treats, small wins will prevent the coming of the anxiety, stress, fear, and subsequent depression.
Ramneek kapoor,Clinical Psychologist and family Therapist,Science of living ,Preksha Meditation expert.\
We all have a very naughty monkey living within our physical and mental system . This little monkey known as the mind keeps on playing the games within our cerebral and emotional subsystem . And we as little kids and sometimes as grown ups keep on taking part in the games that this little NON -HOMINOID devices for us while the cerebral games can be managed analytically it is very important to understand the emotional games. Emotions are the deepest part of our personality . it is not possible for a normal person to understand and go deep into the foundation and forming of these emotion. These emotions can be good , bad , positive , negative or even neutral. Our mind is run by these emotions . we have good emotions prevailing our mind will be good , or in case of negative emotions our mind also becomes negative .our very existence is connected to the running of our emotions . In the current video and the subsequent presentation we shall be discussing about the emotions and the ways to manage the emotions.
on the occasion of Doctors Day we are releasing the second video by Dr. Ramneek Kapoor on youtube.
In this segment, Dr. Ramneek Kapoor, Psychologist, Family Therapist, Science of Living and Preksha meditation expert, talks about the need for self acceptance to deal effectively with depression, anxiety and stresses of life.
Dr. Ramneek Kapoor, Psychologist, Family Therapist, Science of Living and Preksha meditation expert, talks about the need to enhance self acceptance to deal effectively with depression, anxiety and stresses of life.
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Modern gadgets, modern spas and the masseurs can not provide as much relief to your body and mind as is done by Kayotsarg.
Kayotsarg means relaxing of the human body with full awareness. According to Lord Mahavir ‘relaxation relieves one from all sorrow.’ kayotsarg gives a kind of Relaxation that awakens the consciousness and relieves human mind and body from physical and mental stresses. Preksha Meditation too is relaxation, through which the stability of mind and body is achieved. by practising kayotsarga the tensed body muscles are relieved of all kinds of stress and the autosuggestion further provides physical, psychological,and emotional strength .
The practice of kayotsarg along with the exercise of Anupreksha and meditation constitutes the foundation for bringing about a positive thought process and a healthy change in life.
Objectives:
To reduce physical inertia
To enhance intelligence
To develop the aptitude of enduring pain and pleasure with equanimity
To observe the subtleties of our inner body
To gain control over our emotions
To develop positive outlook
to get mind rid of all negativity,anxiety and phobias
To achieve the goals and to succeed in life.
Technique
There are four stages of kayotsarg:
Stability of body
Relief from all kinds of tension
Abandoning the gross body and coming closer to the subtle one.
Realizing the detachment of soul from the body.
Realizing that the soul and the body are two different entities.
Relaxation can be performed in any of the three postures i.e.
Standing
Sitting
Lying down
For relaxation, select a quiet, clean and pleasant place. Those who are young and strong can do relaxation in standing posture. Those who are relatively aged and weak can choose either a sitting or a lying down posture.
In any of these postures, the body is to be kept calm and stable. The neck, spine/vertebral column, and waist should be erect and straight but without stiffness, and entire body should be left loose. Now simply focusing on each and every part of the body experience relaxation through autosuggestion. Relaxation is very useful in relieving oneself from tensions or anxiety. Half an hour of relaxation can be equivalent to and even more effective in providing rest to the body than two hours of sleep.
Relaxation can be practiced for a long time in continuity or even with breaks in between. In order to achieve different effects, one can practice it at different time.
Durations
For physical and mental health perform relaxation for 20 seconds to 5 minutes, several times a day.
Begin any work with 2 minutes practice of relaxation.
After finishing any work practice relaxation for 20 minutes
For emotional well being practice relaxation for 45 minutes, every day before lunch.
Benefits of kayotsarg
Relieves oneself from physical, mental, and emotional stress
Soothes the nervous system
Decelerates the rate of metabolism, breathing, and heartbeats
Increases the operational efficiency
Solves the problem of insomnia
Helps a person to remain calm and peaceful under any situation
Positive changes in the bio-electrical activities of the brain
Alertness sharpens the intellect and concentration is achieved
Constant self-awareness leads to self-realization.
We run regular sessions of Preksha Meditation, kayotsarg ,and yoga. please get in touch with us and change your life for complete healthy and peaceful living:
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Meditation relieves you from all kinds of tensions, worries and disorders. Meditating upon the breathing system, the psychic centers and the inner consciousness, results into a peaceful mind, a healthy emotional balance, a worldly wisdom and an ordered, discipline. Know well what leads you forward and holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” -Gautama Buddha
Scientific preksha Meditation and kayotsarg is the most powerful way of gaining spiritual control over one’s body and mind. It is the ideal meditation for gaining positivity in life and obtaining freedom from never-ending, troublesome thoughts and worries, calming the disturbed mind.it is the divine way to attaining inner peace of mind and world happiness.
Mansik Pramarsh, Indore welcome you to attend scientific spiritual stress free meditation program – an intensive three-months schedule to learn the secrets of preksha meditation.
1. Learn the scientific spiritual preksha meditation techniques that you can practice life-long
2. Identify and realize the Shakti (chaitanya Kendras) within yourself
3. Adopt an ethical life-style for a healthy mindset, positive thinking, worldly successful and peaceful living
4.Enjoy life more intensely and passionately
5. Get free from all kinds of fears, phobias and stress, anxieties and depression
7. Control manage and get free from all kinds of mental and physical pain
8. Live life full of eagerness, meaning, enjoyment, gaiety fun and playfulness. take a decision today and get rid of :
• Depression
• Feeling of insecurity
• Forgetfulness
• Irritability
• Problem concentrating
• Restlessness
• Sadness
• Fatigue
Managing stress is all about taking charge: of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and the way you deal with problems.
Learning Disability:What is learning disability?Learning disability is a misnomer as a difficulty that can be overcome should not be labeled such strongly. Hence we will call it Learning Difficulty. ‘Learning difficulty’ is a general term that can be applied to different conditions with varying symptoms and severity e.g., dyslexia dysgraphia or even dyscalculia and dyspraxia or ADHD. The underlying symptoms of the learning difficulty conditions though in all labeled situations are inter-related and are present from birth.
We at Mansik Pramarsh focus on the all these many labels that exist as a common cause and concentrate on each person and treat their individual difficulties with a highly personalized regular exercise Program of learning skills, counseling skills , meditation and cerebral development.
The cause of learning difficulty: a common factor in many of these conditions is a part of the brain called the cerebellum, which links to nearly all the major centers of the brain.
The cerebellum is key to the learning process, making learning; understanding skills become automatic through practice. But if the cerebellum is not working efficiently then it is very likely the child will struggle with one or more of the following – poor reading and writing, concentration, co-ordination or social skills.
Mansik Pramarsh medication-free Program consists of daily learning skills, counseling skills, preksha meditation and Kayotsarg aim to improve memory, learning ability, retention balance, cerebral and physical co-ordination, concentration and social skills.
Dyslexia
Dyslexia refers to a learning difficulty that causes problems with learning language-based skills. It is a neurological condition that affects around 10 – 20% of the population to some degree.
People who have dyslexia or dyslexia symptoms generally have trouble with their reading, writing and spelling. It can also affect: concentration, short term memory, math, and coordination and communication skills, incapable of paying attention for long periods of time, finding it hard to make friends, being prone to tantrums. Children seemingly insensitive to other people’s feelings are also indicative of a dyslexic condition. Dyslexia has no reflection on the child’s intelligence – it is about the access to his or her intelligence. Being dyslexic doesn’t mean that a person can’t read, nor does it mean that their intelligence is impaired, but it can make learning very challenging, depending on the degree of the problem. Unless these challenges are addressed it is very likely that people will avoid anything to do with reading, writing and spelling, joining in and socializing.
Mansik Pramarsh Programme: Many of the symptoms associated with learning difficulties such as dyslexia, dyspraxia and ADHD are believed to be linked to poor cerebellar efficiency. Through our daily exercises focused on preksha meditation, memory development , Kayotsarg, cerebral balance, eye tracking, retaining capacity built up and cerebrum-physical coordination our special Program aims to improve the performance of the cerebellum, the ‘skill center’ of the brain which makes every day learning and performing automatic.
Dyspraxia or Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD)
Dyspraxia is an alternative name for Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD). Dyspraxia mainly causes issues with coordination resulting in clumsy type behavior on account of problems with motor skills.
Fine motor skills require precise movements like Writing, Threading beads, Tying shoelaces, Doing up buttons, Using cutlery etc.
Gross Motor skills relate to balance and coordination including: Catching and throwing, Riding a bike
The kids who have the debility often avoid participating in sport. The signs of Dyspraxia vary with age and development. For example, young children often show delays in achieving developmental skills (e.g. tying shoelaces, buttoning shirts, zipping pants/trousers) and can appear quite clumsy. Older children often have problems with fine motor control; doing puzzles, building models or playing ball games. Many children do not show difficulties with the early milestones of sitting and crawling but show later difficulties with more complex activities – those which require the involvement of the cerebellum.
Other Dyspraxia symptoms may show in:
Coordination and balance
Awkwardness
Behavioral issues
Some have issues with noise and feeling
Extreme cases with speech impediments
These skills take longer to develop in children with dyspraxia tendencies.
Mansik Pramarsh Programme
Many of the symptoms associated with learning difficulty such as dyslexia, dyspraxia and ADHD are believed to be linked to poor cerebellar efficiency. Our regular daily preksha meditation, science of living, Kayotsarga, exercises focus on balance, eye tracking and coordination. The program aims to improve the performance of the cerebellum, the ‘skill Centre’ of the brain which makes everyday tasks automatic.
Much has been written by thinkers, philosophers, scientists, sages and preachers on the subject of mind and heart. There has been endless research on the issue of restless mind and spirit of human beings, yet the peace still eludes many of us. The world still suffers from many diseases of the mind and heart. Words like depression, anxiety, stress and phobic disorder, mental disorder, behavioral disorder are being used like the common place flu and colds happening to ordinary people. The medical world abounds by all kinds of medicines and treatments, offering little respite to those who suffer. People continue to suffer .Their restless minds and souls are constantly being tormented. Through the columns of these pages we will try to understand how do we establish better understanding of these matters of mind and heart to reach emotional stability in our lives and keep our lives balanced.
We humans are connected with the organic world with the most developed brain and thinking powers. In the organic world three kinds of living beings exist i.e., those that have the instinctual survival bereft of any emotions, those that survive only on the basis of their physical strength and display only momentary emotional awareness .Humans have been bestowed with the powers that can generate emotions in our system involuntarily and activate our thinking system whether we like it or not. We also have a fully developed mental perception, which can take cognizance of the matter and connect it to the events and consequences. We have a fully developed memory. We think, we imagine, we connect and we activate. Much as man would like to become thoughtless at times, sleep without any connection to the real world, the brain continues working either voluntarily but mostly involuntarily.
The involuntary emotional system activates our mind all the time. It forces the mind to imagine, to create and to dream. The dreams motivate us to plan which are executed by us to realize all those that we dreamt of. But in the law of our land where we have the thought, the power to dream and the power to reflect, we do have the situations that cause conflict and pain. For wherever there is a mind, the thought, the power to reflect, the analytical skill, there we have the conflict, the contradiction. No mental activity can ever be without the contradictory and opposite situation. Wherever we have the mind, we have the pain and we have the misery. Man however does not want to suffer. He wants to always be in comfort, in happiness and in the enjoyment of a happy life. This is a natural phenomenon .All living beings look for a life full of comforts. The inanimate only do not know the difference between the comfort and discomfort. The living beings who do not have a mind suffer only for a short while. Their sense of discomfort is only short lived, is unexpressed on account of lack of emotions . They do not consign their discomfort to their memory bank. Nor do they draw upon their memory bank to reflect and compare their current and past discomfort. But man being a thinking organic sensitive emotional mind feels, expresses, analyses ,compares and consigns all comforts and discomforts to his memory bank, thus in a way being always under the load of misery .
Can the mind be free from worries and miseries?
We are all part of the larger organic world in which we are all living beings like millions of other kinds of living being inhabiting the solar system. Our world in fact as compared to the world of other living beings of the universe is too small. We are very miniscule in numbers, barely a few trillions all over the globe. The other planets must be peopled with many more living beings which the science is continuously researching into. Whether those living beings too have similar emotions, thoughts, mind and heart developed like us, only the research will find out.
But humans of our dear earth are endowed with a developed mental faculty. we all think .Thinking ,reflecting is an activity of the mind. We remember, we consign our thoughts to memory bank. We imagine. We create thoughts. Creation of thoughts and imagination is a mental exercise. We plan larger things for our life by the strength of our imagination .We dream of things that are larger than our life. We aspire for making these dreams come true. we do realize some of these dreams, imagination, and aspirations yet many other remain out of reach .
In order to understand the malady that has befallen the modern mind we will have to know the functioning of the mind in the modern age .the modern times are the reflectors of the cerebral psychological problems. Every individual is involved fully into the mental day to day stresses of life. The involvement of the human mind into the cerebral problems becomes the major detriment to the peace and happiness of the human intellect. Every human being wants to become free of the mental stress that he is suffering from. We need to understand as to what mind is, in order to get liberated from the stresses and problems of the mind. Without really looking into the functioning of the mind it is simply irrelevant to solve the problems that exist in our psyche today.
What are the functions performed by Mind ?
Mind is the action centre of the conscious and subconscious both. Sometimes it acts in full associations of the brain and the heart and other times it may wander into unknown realms of its own . Our central nervous system may have a role in controlling the mind and body both. but mind does not remain restricted within the body hence it may be incorrect to say that mind is controlled by the brain and performs all those actions as are demanded of it by the brain.
Tanisha (name changed) has been married for seven years into her second marriage. Her earlier marriage had not last long enough and before she could realize that she has been married, she was out of the wedlock.Her husband of her first marriage , could not take to her low mood and low self esteem.He called it quits in one years time. She had met Sunit (name changed ) through the family social circle. Sunit an employed engineer , despite his having divorced her wife from his first marriage had appealed to the family so much that without any kind of verification etc., Tanisha had been married off to him . It was all rosy picture for the first few months of hr new marital life . She had moved with him to another city where he was posted on his job. Soon she had been blessed with a baby. Things started to go wrong the moment she had announced her being pregnant to her husband. Sunit found it difficult to continue in the job he was holding. He quit the job .They moved back to his parents home.They have both become dependent on his parents meager income of rentals and pension. Tanisha later learnt that Sunit’s earlier divorce had happened on account of his inability to continue into any job for longer period.
It is obvious Tanisha has to bear the brunt of her husband being unemployed . She is mistreated by her mother in law too. Tanisha has been moving forth between her parents house and her in laws like a bouncing ball very frequently. The last time she had been away for over six months ( this being longest period of her leaving her husband ). Yet she comes back every time .Every month it happens either she is told to leave her in laws’ place by her mother in law or her husband or she would leave in a huff after the fight vowing never to come back . Her life goes on in spite of the mental, physical , emotional , economic and social abuse.Neither her parents want her to leave her husband nor is she confident enough to lead her life independently.
Relationship abuse is the most common form of psychological, abuse people indulge into to hold a sway over others or allow others to hold a sway over them. It is a kind of psychological exploitation by the perpetrator . At the same time it is also an unnecessary comfort area the victim gets into refusing to come out of it.
The low self-esteem in women can be the result of having undergone childhood abuse — which can instill fear of the unknown change .Doubts of self empowerment can raise their tolerance for abuse, and neglect . Such women have reported at least one incident of abuse in their early life , whether physical or psychological.Psychological abuse included things like, “touching inappropriately by a friend or a relative”, “ being bullied in their childhood”, ” being called fat or ugly”, ” having been ignored by parents, guardians, or“ being hurled insults by teachers , tutors, classmates or companions “.Most of the abuse the study indicates are psychological.
“It is possible that women with childhood abuse histories are more satisfied in their relationships than women without childhood abuse histories because they have more tolerance for mistreatment based on early life experiences and resulting interpersonal experiences ”, the researcher points out ,“…the more psychological abuse women are exposed to, the more energy and effort they put forth to resolve the conflict, thus leading to increases in perceived investment.”
When we achieve balance of emotions in our day to day life , we get a sense of self mastery and well being. But instead of managing balance of emotions we tend to get swayed by the event. We brood over the event and the person that has stirred the emotional upheaval and bring about the imbalanced attitude of negative emotions.
Objectives:
We run regular sessions of Preksha Meditation, kayotsarg ,and yoga. please get in touch with us and change your life for complete healthy and peaceful living:
Alka Mansik Pramarsh Foundation Clinical Psychologists-Family therapists Indore 0731-4263087,9179383554 